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girlnextdoor
Ewa, alright.
Newbie
Why are you calling smiki single and dumb? You want to break up with your bf and that would make you single but at the same time you think its a sign of stupidity. I think you just here to argue. I like to argue too so i can have a fun day ahead. I work as a contact corona tracer at the moment and Yes your symptoms i also heard as sickness symptoms
Tallspicy
If you need a partner who is there to care for you when you are sick, this guy is not it. So end it because that is what is right for you. You don’t need anyone else’s permission and it is inconsiderate if you were that sick to not at least care.
However, you say you are not a bitch and don’t nag, but given how hard you are being and argumentative and name calling question your ability to be self reflective enough to know if you are as chilled out as you say you are. I bet you are not very nice when you don’t get your way?
No one wants to be with: prove your love to me. Prove it! Especially after an apology.
Tallspicy
Oops, call into question your ability..,
ANM StaffKeymasterModerator udpate:
girlnextdoor, please do not call other people “dumb” here. You are free to disagree with what people say, but don’t insult them. (The community here is trying to share their opinion to help! No need to respond to every perceived put-down.)
That said, I hope you are able to find clarity for your situation though this discussion with our community. Good luck!
girlnextdoor
Sure I won’t call people dumb, but then please ask others to stop attacking me as well. Calling me a bickering woman, argumentative etc is what is making me respond this way to these people. Some of these women who are regular here don’t let others become a regular here because of this attitude of theirs. People come here with problems , not to listen to others calling them a bickering woman. Please tell them not to spread so much unpleasantness. Thank you.
ANM StaffKeymastergirlnextdoor, people are not attacking you. They are offering their observations about your behavior.
If a person suggests that you are being manipulative or bickering, then it is their opinion based on their life experiences combined with the details you’re sharing here.
No, people don’t come here to be called a bickering woman. People come here to gain clarity over the situation that they’re in. Sometimes, though, our community members sense that a person is doing something which is making their own situation worse. Often times, the person can’t see that problem within themselves. In that case, our community members are going to share that observation. Sometimes they share it gently, or sometimes bluntly — but not with malicious intent. They want to help.
That is not insulting a person. That is an attempt to get a person to be introspective. They may find that the answer is within themselves.
Newbie
Well i apologize for the last responses but its based on your first reaction where you called me stupid. If you read my original response i said i wont judge the bf based on this event with Coronal also going on (focus on: i wouldnt) but if he was like this in general, i would question the relationship. There is not one nasty word in there. And then you called me stupid because you wrote you had a really bad case of stomach ache which im fine with, its the internet after all. So good luck with your bf. Im sure you can handle it without me responding any more
girlnextdoor
ANM, I understand but I still feel telling someone you are a bickering woman is not something that is going to make a self respecting person introspect, it will only agitate them to give a bad response. That’s human nature. No one wants to be disrespected. Plus, when people start saying things like that as a group, it does make the person posting the problem feel attacked, whether they mean it that way or not.
Anyway thanks, I shall not be posting here again. I will find some other group which is a bit more supportive and sympathetic towards people dealing with issues. Leaving this thread. Thanks to cupcake, ewa and others who chose to talk respectfully and without making any assumptions. Bye!
girlnextdoor
Newbie, I apologise too. I just got ticked off at your assumption that I was creating SUCH a big scene because of a mere stomach ache when I clearly wrote it was a terrible case of infection. But I understand I could have said it in a better way.
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