Chlamydia? Does that mean he cheated?

Do you have your period? Sometimes on the first day or two of mine when I go to pee there is a bit of blood if my flow is a bit heavy. I’d get tested anyway if I was you if that’s what your Dr suggested. Your boyfriend isn’t a Dr so he can’t possibly know what is causing the bleeding. Better to be on the safe side and know what you’re dealing with so you’ll know if it’s anything to worry about or not.

Im sorry but i dont think you are ready for a relationship. First of all, youre so paranoid about getting pregnant you go for anal sex. Of course thats painful and of course that can hurt and bleed. There a thousand of bloodvessels that can easily burst. Since the vagina is actually build to have sed with, you wont have that problem. Although you can still bleed after sex. Secondly you accuse him of having chlamydia without you being tested or knowing you have it. Honestly that sounds pretty nuts and i think this puts a strain on your relationship. I say the change is pretty slim btw. There is a thing called the internet that might work for you here, but go for decent sites.

Laurel, you are putting the cart way before the horse. I understand you’re freaking out right now but this is not the way to handle difficult issues. Until you absolutely know for certain what it is, its foolish to engage in a tit-for-tat. This is where the adage “Pick your battles very carefully” comes in because if you keep picking battles without verifiable proof or facts it slowly chips away at the relationship until there is nothing left but a bloody battlefield.

You must be young or don’t have the experience to communicate effectively yet which is why many of the ‘older/seasoned folks’ are responding the way they are. In these types of circumstances its always BEST to have ‘all the facts’ before engaging. Your BF is right, until you know for sure, its premature to be accusing him of anything; whereas if you are wrong I hope you are mature enough to admit it and apologize to him.

Do you have an appointment? If yes, then wait until you have the results (aka ‘facts’) before discussing anything further with your BF.

And that’s why you ask anyone to get tested for STDs before you do anything.
At least I do

Laurel,
Your boyfriend’s opinion about how only promiscuous people catch STD’s is very misguided. STD’s can happen in a monogamous relationship too and precisely because a lot of people are often asymptomatic. It happened to me at the beginning of a serious relationship and we handled it like adults. It was not the end of the world, just frustrating because of the doctors appts/testing/antibiotics involved and having to stay away from each other for a while. We are still together though. If either one of you turns out to be positive, I hope your boyfriend can stop being so judgmental and you can move forward together. Good luck!