Classic story but still in need of advice

Honey, who cares? I say this because you care too much about a total stranger. A few weeks of talking is not knowing. No man is real until he is your boyfriend and he suggested it.

If you can’t date without being invested in men you don’t know, don’t date. you know nothing about this man and his circumstances. Just let him lead. You respond are receptive and warm.

He is not playing mind games, as you are not in a relationship and does not owe you anything. If he is being too aloof stop responding or tell him when he reaches out “thanks but we are not a fit”

The concept of giving space is not meant after one date. Its for couples. After one date you do nothing. If he gets back to ypu in a reasonable timeframe you respond. If its weeks and a ‘hi’ i would ignore it. If he is not asking you out again within two weeks i would say its a no (and thats extra time assuming no one wants to date when you lost someone you love).
Your expectations after one coffee and some weeks of texting are wat over the top, i agree with tall on that. You have to date for a few months to even consider a guy as a bf

You’ve met once. You’ve texted a bunch I’m guessing which gives a false sense of a relationship progressing. Look at the times you meet in person to determine how it’s going. He didn’t ask you out this week- maybe because of his friend’s death or maybe because he’s not really interested. You give space to a guy once you’re in a relationship with a guy. Space is after you’ve been together for awhile- not your situation. You don’t call guys or initiate texting with guys you’re not in a relationship with. So keep meeting others and see what this guy does. His next move should be a date of some kind- or he’s not interested. Do not contact him.

Got it. It does make more sense seeing all those replies. Thank you all!
Dating sure did changed (to the worse) since I dated. And it is tiring.
Some guys just want to sext, some just to have sex…gosh is that all that is left to dating? Does anyone actually want to date or whatever this is called today.
I will leave him at the back burner and will keep in touch with other guys. Time will show.

You need to learn how not to eat “flowery words” and pay closer attention to their actions! Does he say what he’s going to do and then does what he say’s at least 98% of the time? If not, then he’s not a good or reliable man. It boils down to how often does a man want to SPEND with you? If its not much then he’s most likely *e-tethering* you (look it up) as well as multiple other ladies because texting is cheap, lazy and easy to do—INVESTING one’s TIME and $$$ into someone is not.

Bottom line, stop texting so much with men. Do you want to date a man or your phone? Look up the words “mystery” and “intrigue.” Those two words needs to be incorporated into your dating life if you don’t want to keep attracting these kind of men. Today, stop giving your time and info. away to men for free over—those ladies are a dime a dozen and not the one’s you should be competing with because that’s what you are doing. If a man is putting in little effort, time and $$ to really get to know you, in person, then you drop them before they bounce on you—problem solved.

It is not ghosting. His behavior has not changed because you don’t know his behavior when you have only one date.

He is not in a relationship with you and you have been on one date. He doesn’t owe you anything. What he is doing is called dating. If you were not so invested, you would not care.