Confused about IT guy

he might he might not, go date other people if he has not been in touch then why wait for a man?

There’s nothing to wait for. You don’t even know if the calls are from him! I get plenty of “unknown” spam calls.

Just date other guys and don’t worry about him. You don’t know him, he’s a stranger. If he calls you up one day and wants to take you out, great. If he doesn’t, it’s fine. Either way there’s nothing to wait for in this case, so keep dating and doing your thing.

He told me he was single. I’m pretty sure he was. Could tell by his mannerisms haha.

It’s just weird how the calls started right after that and one even came in on a Saturday. I’ve never really gotten calls like that before.

But yes, I will move forward with my life. Thank you 🙏

I’ll admit, I really like shy guys 😣 But, I also acknowledge that me reaching out more on social media at this point would be pointless. I gave him my number because I wanted to see if he would take the masculine role, reach out and then we could see where things go.

I don’t know why no voicemails have been left. There was one the first time, it was short, but I have heard that deployments are pretty stressful as they’re getting evaluated/qualified, studying, etc.

I still take your point about moving forward with my life and if he happens to get in touch again, I’ll see. It’s just a little hard because I put myself out there and I was scared out of my mind 😭

Thanks for your insight! 😊

Yes, there was a call about two days after I gave the number. I’ve been around Navy environments before and it did sound like a ship environment in the background. But other than that, nothing conclusive was said 😕

I’m just a little confused that it seems like the guy liked me and he was single, seemed like he probably wanted to hang out when he awkwardly came up to me, and we had some nice chats too. My gut tells me he was the Unknown Caller making all those calls as well.

So, do guys just forget about things quickly? I’m just confused because I don’t have much experience dating and I do have some trouble conveying my interest clearly, but I genuinely felt like this was a sincere connection.

Does it seem unlikely that he’ll contact when he gets back from deployment? It’s just so weird 😔

Thank you! Well, I think he was interested. There were more signals but i’m just too tired to go through them. Clearly I wasn’t a priority though.

Thanks for your feedback 🙏

Okay so….the guy did not leave a message. You don’t even know it was him. I know you WANT it to be him, but you don’t know for sure. Background noise before someone hangs up is not a voicemail message. If a guy doesn’t say “Hi, this is *name*, blah blah blah”– he has not left you a message. (If you get more “unknown” calls, just pick up and see who it is! I would, at this point).

You mentioned you’re not experienced with dating. The thing is, a guy can be attracted to you and still not make a move, for all kinds of reasons. No one here is contradicting that he was attracted to you. You said the signs were there- okay, fine. The important thing is, he’s not making a move. Don’t stress or overanalyze why not. It doesn’t mean he didn’t find you attractive.

You will waste a lot of energy and anxiety in these situations unless you take a more relaxed attitude. The guy hasn’t called (not in a definitive way), and he may or may not call. In the meantime just keep living your life and don’t worry about it.

I don’t know where you live US or Europe, but in the UK navy most guys when on deployment don’t have their phones on them, because they simply don’t get signal /reception . They only message when on dry land, but US maybe different I don’t know.
also I know being in the army/navy is big in America but in Europe they have a really bad reputation, you simply don’t date army/navy guys because they are not very loyal people.

Thanks for all your feedback guys! I’m definitely not waiting around for this guy. Just was wondering what was up. Gonna move forward with my life and achieve some of my goals.

Thanks 🙌