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Reece
Dont even know where to start. First time i saw my ex i thought he was gorgeous. And within weeks of first meeting we both openly flirted with each other however, i knew he wasnt interested. Everyone at college thought we were a couple and i kinda think that fueled my liking towards him. Anyways his female best friend became a very close friend of mine and from her i found out that he was interested in me. Anyways after 4 months of me completely lusting after him, i made the first move. I was confident as i found out from many sources that i was exactly his type. PLUS we had been texting everyday allday. We started dating in january and he told me he loved me. Spoke from the minute we woke up to the minute we went to bed. 2 months later we slept together. Everything was amazing until around May. Exams started, everyone was stressed. He started replying less and less. Which is understandable. As exam season progressed he started payin next to no attention to me. And always put it down to exam stress and lack of sleep. So i left him to it. Which was hard. But i didnt want to pressure him on top of everything else. Anyways. Exam period finishes and i hoped everything would go back to normal. But he had become so distant that i barely knew him. He would laugh and speak to everyone but me. I confronted him about it and he apologised. We had sex (sorry if tmi) and 2 days later he told me that he had lost all feelings for me. He seemed extremely apologetic and stressed how he tried to keep everything going but just couldnt feel anything towards me. This almost destroyed me. I felt used and discarded. But i wanted him to be happy. If thats without me then so be it. Thts what love is right? The part that kills me the most is that now he doesnt even look at me. He ignores what i say. Doesnt even try to be friends. I swallowed my pride and made smalltalk bout a football game and he told me that i should just drop it as he doesnt keep any connections at all with girls that he has dated. Its awkward as we have the same circle of friends. I just dont understand. How can he go from loving me and telling me every little secret of his to acting like ive never existed? All within a matter of a few weeks. I know for sure there isnt another girl in the picture because he has been cheated on before and claims would never put anyone through what happened to him. I just dont get it. How can someone just lose interest like that?
MichellePeople in general are very complex most importantly fickle. I’m not sure how your relationship looked objectively but perhaps you are seeing it from a certain lens. Sometimes people, especially people who are used to having active dating lives just end up losing interest in the girls they were with. I wouldn’t take it personally, I’m not sure if he’s a jerk but the fact he bluntly told you to drop the “friend” act sort of leads to signs of him being a total dick. I know it seems painful now, but in the long run I’m sure that you will meet a guy that you have a stronger “click” with. Just ignore him, move on because he has… Who knows, maybe in some subconscious, manipulative way, you’ll make him take notice of your sudden peace of mind. bottom line: HE’S A JERK
ReeceThanks Michelle. You’ve said exactly what all my friends have been saying. Thing is, he was my first and now im going to always have the memory of being used. He has told me that back when he did love me i was his world and i do believe him. I just dont understand how quickly he decided that im not “his world” anymore. We only dated 5 months. During the breakup he told me that some part of him thinks this is only a phase. I think hes just said that to keep me hanging around which i will never do. I gave up all my friends for him because he was always jealous. So when we broke up i had no one at all to talk to. Now that ive reconnected with as many friends as i could he gets angry and tells me that i dont need him anymore and that i should just “run along”. Even his bestfriend that helped set us up ignores me completely. My problem is i love him so much and this is what he does in return. I KNOW that i need to move on and forget him. But hes the jokester of my class. Everyone laughs at his jokes and it is a constant reminder of how amazing i find him regardless of his flaws.
HarleyOh OH./. this guy is trouble… RUN ! Do not go back.. A jealous asshole who “made” you give up all your friends. Jokster of class…. because he has low confidence/self estemm and has to control women/girls to compensate for his saddo personallity.
He’s TRYING to make you feel bad.. WHEN IT SUITS HIM.. he will reel you back in.. DON’T GO THERE.
Read about narcisstic type guys.. he sounds it.
MOVE ON.. NEVER give up friends or your lifestyle for a guy.
ReeceThanks Harley. Its great to hear supportive things from other people. Shows that there is much better people in the world than a guy who cant respect me or my feelings. And whilst my love for him may never truly fully fade i will focus on making myself the centre of my attention for once. Ive neglected my needs for far too long. Once ive moved on and am happier without him he will see what that he mistreated the wrong girl :)
MarcieHmm. Sounds a bit like what happened to me. I guess some guys just decide out of the blue that they no longer need you. As they say. Karma is a b***h
AleenaIts killing me.,Am writting this to get out of my heart..we both found an instant connection between us..we both are working in same place and cubicle..he started to speak with me as well i liked him very much..then he gave some clues that he is interested in me but i waited for him to propose..yeah that day came..he proposed me..after some 15more mins i accepted his proposal but within 5mins he replied he is loving me bt he cant marry me because of caste and religion problems..typical indian marriage issues..I broke down by his words..because i took relationship seriously..am unable to forget him..he moved to new place and job
Alisonseems like the more invested you are~ .. the less he cares
please try your best & move on
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