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Momo
How can I know or what signs do I look for to know if a guy is really interested in me & likes me or is he lying be fake putting on an act cause he just wants to use me for sex? And it seems like he only wants to see me be around me hang out with me whenever he’s buzzed and or drunk & that really really hurts my feelings cause I have a crush on him like him a lot & want to be with him, he has a girlfriend & one time he was very very drunk & I was drunk & we ended up having sex & I’ve been beating myself up ever since cause I went against what I believe in
But I was up front & honest with him on what I feel about him, I just want to know if he’s really interested in me & likes me or is it an act to try to get sex from meSophia
You just had a one night stand when were both drunk. Move forward and away from him. He’ll only use you and hurt your feelings. He already has a girlfriend.
Tallspicy
Really? You are confused? Hard truth time.
Girl, please go to therapy. This man has a girlfriend and you are wondering if he just wants you for sex? Yes. And he cheats on the women he dates. You want a cheater? Do you?
Healthy people do not engage in even one of these behaviors let alone so many… flirting with taken men, sleeping with taken men, worrying if taken men like them for real.
He is not the problem. You are. And you have the key to fixing it, which is fixing yourself.
Blair
What? You knew about his girlfriend and yet you still slept with him? If you’re confused, I bet his girlfriend’s more confused than you.
Raven
He’s a cheeter & you’re an accomplice…
Better off single
What?! NO! leave the guy alone.
I feel sorry for the girlfriend.
It sucks when you want to see the best in someone and get let down because he isn’t all that great.
Hey, you had sex with a guy you’re crushing on who has another girlfriend, lies, and an all around dickwad…up your standards girl. Forget this guy.Momo
I left him alone. I don’t want anything to do with him. And I’m going to be woman enough to tell his girlfriend she had every right to know & it’s the right appropriate thing to do. I’m so so ashamed of myself & regret sleeping with him very much & I feel used so used
tammy
he dint use you. get your facts clear and pls don’t play the victim card. you always knew he had a gf. yet you slept with him! you both used each other for some casual one night fun. leave it at that and move on. don’t try to play guilty and noble and used. you both were at fault. just pack up and leave.
cupcake
What Tammy said. Also don’t tell the girlfriend. You are only doing it for revenge and to hurt her and him. You don’t care an iota about her or it being the “right thing”. Be honest with yourself. I get it, you feel hurt and rejected, but be “woman enough” to take responsibilities for your actions and move on. You are not a victim. You were not used. You made a mistake, accept it.
Lane
Agree with others in that your “plan” backfired and now you want to come off looking like a victim in this???
Fact, you knew he had a girlfriend yet VOLUNTARILY slept with him knowing this;
Fact, you have a crush on him and thought you could sex him into liking you and it didn’t work;
Fact, he has shown zero interest in anything with you other than having drunk sex;
Fact, you are now angry your plan backfired and now want to drag an innocent person, the very lady YOU tried to steal her BF from, because you’re hurt???
I think you need to look in the mirror, dig deep down, and acknowledge that what YOU DID was far more hurtful, mean and spiteful to not only his GF but to him by engaging in sex with a drunk man you are crushing on. If anything, you took advantage of him, because you had specific motives for doing so, not the other way around!
Like my mother used to say “if you make your bed you get to lie in it” meaning you need to take full responsibility and accountability for YOUR ACTIONS and fully accept all the consequences of them. This is the consequence of doing what YOU DID and need know that kharma is a real biatch; what comes around goes around and you very well could be that GF some day!
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