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Lea
I started seeing a Dominican American man. We are both in our late 30’s. We have been out on a couple of dates and we are both very passionate people and we get along great. We spend hours talking and having fun, then it ends in sex. It seems to be just a passionate in the moment situation but I never usually go that fast in having sex when I am first getting to know someone.
I know that Latin men are sexual people but I am as well and I have never had any hookups nor have I ever wanted any. To me I have always wanted a man like this because I know he can keep up with my sexual appetite whereas most men can’t. He initiates all of our texts and he calls me every night. After our first date, I am not a shy person and can be bold at times but I let him know I really wanted to see him again and requested the second date and he did not hesitate to accept.
Not every conversation we have is sexual but some are. Usually he just lets me know what he does through out the day and I think its quite endearing. However, he has brought up sexual conversation a few times and I sometimes go along with it viewing it as playful. I have made myself clear that I don’t only want a sexual relationship and he says its more than sex for him when I ask him.
He calls me every night right before going to bed and there has only been one or two sexual innuendos but normally its just normal conversation.
I really need some input from a man to see if we just have a passionate interest in each other, or if its something else entirely. I am a bold woman and I have no problem telling him what is on my mind. But I am wondering if there is anything else I need to ask him or things to watch out for to make sure I am not missing something.
Any input would be greatly appreciated
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You only had two dates and you initiated the second one? Right now all I can say is he wants sex…
Slow down.. Stop initiating and see if he dates you,Lea
The only thing I said close to initiating anything is that I would love to see him again. He makes the plans and I have never text nor called him first ever. We talk all day long most days and he always calls me. I have never called him. But thanks for your insight. I won’t ever suggest another date and see where it goes.
Stephanie
Latins are sexual people. Stereotype. Treat him like a human being.
Advice
I’m not sure what his race/ethnicity has to do with it. I will admit, the only Dominican I ever dated (for 3 years) turned out to be very sexual and passionate… And was also a womanizer, serial cheater and a thief. But that aside…..
He’s a man. You don’t know this man very long. Read articles about dating and relationships. All men come on strong in the beginning. You have to watch over time if they are just infatuated or if they are really into you. This takes time, dating, getting to know each other and watching to see if his words and actions match.
Keep your head on straight and see if he is consistent. No one on here can tell you one way or the other if this relationship is going to work out. It’s never a great idea to have sex so early..why? Because then you end up wondering if he just wants sex or is really into you. I sense that is where your head might be at right now with all your questions.
Shakeu
Do you even know if he has anither relationship already? Who he lives with? If im sleeping w a man I also jeed to be meeting his family by that time.
Crisula
don’t really see why you needed a man’s advice…
not that complex… and certainly nothing any of us haven’t heard before“Dominican American ” was included in story..that’s all
Mara
Girlfriends always told me about dating Dominican men and that I needed to try it but I’ve never paid attention since I’m into asians- specifically Koreans. Only dated one Korean/Puertorican guy in high school and that was it. Recently, after he’s been after me for a couple of months, I decided to give this Dominican guy a chance. Nothing serious as I was clear I came out of a 9 yr relationship w/the father of my son and I have a 2 year old boy. Still, He’s great w/my son. He only said he wanted to have a “friend” to talk & to go out with- nothing serious either. First time we made out it was such a rush & so passionate that I felt I was in high school again. It was ridiculous. I felt butterflies, I like a stomachache all day after we made out, felt anxious all day, well, a mess. I have to say was the best kiss I ever got from a guy not knowing what was in store for me. I decided to try what I’ve heard all along and honestly, I’ve had a lot of chemistry w/guys I’ve dated but this guy is something else. Like, he keeps me on my toes. The way he moved when we 1st had sex was something I’ve never experienced b4. His focus is on me every single time and he only moves on until I’m totally & completely satisfied. One day we did it 4 times in 3 hours & I thought I was going to be exhausted but incredibly, I wanted more. It’s something I can’t explain- it’s more like a feeling. I know that this has turned into something sexual but I’m ok w/it & enjoying it while I can as I have no interest in getting into a serious relationship bc my main focus is raising my baby boy right now but, in the meantime, I’m going to get all the attention & the sex I didn’t get in the past 9 years when I was w/my ex for sure!!!!!
YasminAb
Ok, I was born in Cuba. Proudly, btw. Cuban & Dominican people come from almost the same background heritage: the Amerindian native population, the Spaniards, the Africans and the US people. Our history is also similar. The point being we are very much alike, and from that I can tell you our men are NOT all passionate and sexual per se. If this guy is f*cking the hell out of you, most likely is bc he wants you, and he is getting what he wants from you.
You’ve only gone on a couple of dates so you are just getting to know each other. With any man, being too available is a turn off. There are no rules, other than not turning to focus your entire life on a new guy. It is hard to go by when you just met someone you like too much, but then I used to appply the 1/3 rule: One in three times when he asks me out or calls me, I might or might not make up a excuse for not carrying on. In a nice way of course. Good luck and happy for you! -
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