Dating a Millionaire

Hi Isabella-I would write the colleague off as likely teasing you. If she wasn’t teasing ,then she sounds envious or frankly,like a bee-atch. I think you are having a nice relationdship/good time with a sweet and generous guy. You know yourself and your motives, which seem to be pure and non-gold digging-so who cares what she or anyone else thinks! Besides if you are dating a “rich guy”-they have lots of choice,lol,so be confident and enjoy!
If she comments rudely again, just walk away or look at her and say”Why would you say that?,because actually our relationship is none of your business”. That should shut her down.

sorry I means “give you gifts, take you out to nice places, and take you on trips”. You get the point!

Yes Liz I get your point lol
I am glad yourself and Peggy see this the way I do. I am just concerned that this colleague is speaking out what others are thinking. Hopefully not :-)

Can I ask how your colleagues know he has money? Is it because of the gifts, or have you specifically mentioned it?

You can’t control what people think, unfortunately. So you should try not to worry about it. Peggy is right, you know your relationship, you know the truth, and you know what your motives are– and you’re not gold-digging.

My only suggestion would be, if you have made comments to co-workers (even casually) about his income, i would put a stop to that. It might come off the wrong way. You might think you’re just sharing a detail about him, but others might interpret it as being overly focused on his money. If he gives you expensive gifts, that’s a bit harder- I don’t think it’s fair for you not to be able to use a nice purse or jewelry he gave you, just because they’re expensive and it might provoke jealous gossip. But maybe try to say as little as possible about the gifts — for example, if someone compliments them, say thank you but don’t get into a conversation about cost or brand.

It was all only in passing. Haven’t bragged or anything like that. At least I don’t think so. And she doesn’t even know half of it. I’m the kind of person who really only tells if asked and to be honest she’s kinda nosey.

It’s good to get other women’s prospective without having to bring it up or to attention of those who are close to me, so thank you for your responses so far.

This is my take on it. If you haven’t been doing a little bit of bragging about the gifts he was buying you, she wouldn’t have asked ” if he had bought me anything new lately.” Because that means she knows he’s being buying you items before and she wouldn’t know that if you hadn’t been telling her. Not that there is anything wrong with wanting to show off your gifts and how much he’s spoiling you but I’m sure it’s what led to the comment.

To me a sugar daddy arrangement involves a man who is much older (not just 5 years, more like could be your daddy!) paying for things like your rent, your car, your clothes, etc. Taking you on expensive vacations. Not just your normal buying you jewelry or gifts in a relationship. Your relationship doesn’t look that way to me. It seems like you are both buying each other sweet gifts and although yours might be smaller tokens monetarily than his, it’s in line with what you can afford where his gifts are in line with what he can afford.

My only caveat would be if you two were out walking around and shopping and you saw the bag and went on about how much you liked it so he bought it for you. I think there’s a big difference between a man going out and purchasing you a gift on his own vs you seeing something you want when with him knowing full well he would buy it for you if you indicated you liked it. I’ve seen lots of women do that to men. Be out walking around, see a gorgeous coat she would just love to have but it’s too expensive.

And the guy’s like, oh try it on.

Oh it looks so good on you.

Yes I love it but I could never pay that much for something like this.

Well let me get it for you.

Oh no, I just couldn’t.

Then BAM he’s bought her the coat. That’s a little too manipulative for me and would make me think a woman is using a guy for his money or a gold digger type. Not saying this is you, just pointing out a nuance.

LOL Curley Sue: perfect! Love your idea. The co-worker sounds like a troublemaker type/snoop.

Expect to be judged by some people. It’s inevitable. Some women will get jealous in/directly. Some men will get salty and call you a classic gold digger. Even this post could get easily labeled as a humble brag

You can either walk on eggshells about what you should or shouldn’t share with others, and how to do things in the relationship just to prove various things

Or you can use this opportunity to condition yourself to become indifferent about what others think and not be a slave to your reputation.