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Leigh
I was recently dating a guy we had some really good dates about 5 and we spoke non stop. Yesterday I could tell something was a little off and asked him and he said his feelings had changed and were t as they were at the beginning and that things were quite intense. He admitted he made them intense, truth is we both did. He would text me good morning and night, ring me daily and on relflevtion after the initial rejection and being a little bit sad I can recognise it was a bit too intense, and a little bit too much too soon. He said he felt we had a really good connection but his feelings have changed and he wishes they hadn’t because he doesn’t know why and this isn’t how he expected things to end.
I know there are some really disrespectful guys- I have met my fair share but there really is no bad blood between us, it just didn’t work out. we spoke and we both said we could maybe catch up when things have settled down. I’m ok and not dwelling but I can’t help but feel like things could have been so different with us. I think it’s likely we will cross paths again in a platonic way but I’m just curious do things ever come round for a second chance, and do guys feelings ever come back. We definitely had a good connection and there really is no bad blood between us.I’m not naive enough to wait around or dwell but Ild like to be optimistic to think if there really was a connection like we both thought, maybe if our paths ever cross who knows kind of thing, or am I just being silly to be open to that possibility.
Ewa
they do come back, but I will tell you when, when the person they left you for , leave them or they can’t find sex anywhere else.
Sorry to be harsh but that is the reality these days.
You don’t know the real reason why he decided to stop seeing you, did you sleep with him?
From my experience I know , they always come back but why would you want him to be back anyway? He had his chance with you and decided not to pursue , whether it ended in a good way , it doesn’t matter, he chose not to be with you, not to date you.
I can guarantee you that in 2 weeks time , you won’t even bother thinking about this guy :)tammy
he decided to step back bec things got too intense and maybe that was bec he dint really see this relationship having a future. in the past i had gone for a holiday to a beach location, with 3 girl friends. met this English guy and we hung out together. we both way too attached on my 4 day holiday. when it was time for me to leave, we both felt so torn. but since at that time i was in between jobs, i decided to go back after a week to the same place for another break. and we spent a week together. it was an amazing week. but at the end of it, I backed off because things had got way too intense too fast. Besides I didn’t see a future since we both had very different backgrounds. we parted on friendly terms with no bad blood. this was sm years back and now we have lost touch.
what am saying is i can really identify with what he feels. just be glad for some good memories and move on with a smile. :-)
AngieBaby
In my own experience and what I’ve observed, men who do this sort of thing don’t come back (except for easy NSA sex as Ewa said) because they weren’t really available for a relationship in the first place.
This hot/cold behavior is indicative of someone who isn’t over a past relationship or isn’t emotionally healthy – normal guys just don’t act like that. Immediate intensity and love bombing is a big red flag, I’ve had that lesson driven home reading this site the past year. Someone comes on too strong with me, I back way the heck off and without exception they fade away. Sorry, I know you were hoping to hear something else. Unfortunately the connection wasn’t really what you thought it was.
I’d steer clear of a guy who treated me like this. You don’t need “friends” who are this flaky.
Anon
He may come back but if the relationship was truly meant to be, more effort to keep the relationship going would have happened on his part. Whatever the reason is, it’s not a relationship that’s meant to happen now- you never know in the future what could happen so live your life!
Maddie
Angiebaby 💯
Lane
Yes, some do come back but you have to figure out VERY SOON what their true intentions with you are or you will just end up circling the same drain going nowhere.
This man will not be afraid of the hard questions, such as “what are your true intentions with me this time v. last time?” When you ask him make darn sure its in person so you can watch to see if he diverts his eyes (looking for an answer) and his body language (uncomfortable with line of questioning) because if he’s not being honest and doesn’t know the answer with conviction then you walk the hell away pronto!
I’ve had men in these circumstances come back. I married one that lasted over 20 years; and with my current for over 6.5 years, so yes, its possible. However, the distinct difference between them, and others, is they stepped way up to not only TELL ME but SHOW ME they were ALL IN, if not, I would have walked.
Don’t waste your time on men who don’t have a clue what they want. Either they do or they don’t, and if they don’t, let him go and stay gone.
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