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    Clara

    I met a guy on Tinder in March, before the whole Coronavirus thing started. We had a great first date and planned a second date the week after that. We had to cancel due to the quarantine, but were willing to continue seeing each other as long as we were sure we didn’t have any COVID-19 symptoms. We didn’t get to see each other until a month after our first date, but during that time we did multiple video and phone calls as well as texts. We have been seeing each other about every week or two since April. I have gone to his place and he has cooked me dinner or ordered dinner for us multiple times. He has been a perfect gentleman and hasn’t tried to go past making out. We don’t text or call daily but we talk periodically throughout the week.
    On Monday, it was my birthday and he invited me over for dinner on Wednesday. We had some delicious food and he even got me a really cute birthday gift. As the evening was about to end, I felt the time was right to ask him what his intentions were. I began by saying I wanted to ask him a question, and when I asked him what his intentions were with us. He took a moment before replying that he doesn’t know. His exact words were “I don’t know. With everything that’s going on, things don’t feel normal. I’m definitely interested, I just don’t know right now. I’m really happy we’ve been seeing each other and I like you.” I thanked him for being honest and then we said goodbye, and I left. I am glad I asked him, and I feel better knowing where he stands. I am okay with taking things slow, I know this is a crazy time and things feel a bit weird. I like him and am interested in seeing where things go, I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t wasting my time. What do you guys think about his answer? Am I wasting my time or is his answer fair considering everything that’s going on? Just looking for any insight you guys might have.

    #792427 Reply
    K

    I’m not sure why you even asked. Especially given that you state:

    “I am okay with taking things slow, I know this is a crazy time and things feel a bit weird.”

    Then, why bring up a relationship status question?? That really was: “So am I your GF yet?”

    You put him on the spot and he fudged because he felt pressured. I would have said the exact same thing and I’d probably back off a little after someone asked me that, so don’t be surprised if he does that.

    What “insight” do you think strangers on the internet have that you don’t? Do you trust your own instincts and read on the situation so little?

    What are your expectations of this man and relationships in general?

    Have you had sex with him yet?

    This is a very strange time, people are emotionally all over the place. Until we’re much further off lockdown I wouldn’t be asking anyone I’m dating questions about commitment. I’d just enjoy his company and let things develop organically. Sounds ike it was all going pretty well.

    #792428 Reply
    K

    Oh sorry, I see you hadn’t gotten past kissing. Never mind the sex question.

    #792430 Reply
    Newbie

    I would go with what he said. If you have seeing each other since april now, that means dating for around two months. Thats too soon to know for real how you feel. I would see what he does for next 6 weeks or so, if he takes you out and you grow closer. Thats the only move you have i think

    #792433 Reply
    Sensy

    The above replies help you to understand that such a question only puts pressure on what you have going. Just watch a guys action to see if he is someone you want in your world. Don’t have sex until you know he sees you as his girlfriend.

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