Deconding mister X

The title is misleading – there is no decoding to do here. You’re not asking us what he’s thinking.

Most guys don’t like to text as much as girls do. But they’ll make an effort for a girl they like. Particularly if it’s a lockdown and they have few ways of actually being with her.

How frequently does he text you? And how frequently do you want it to be? Bear in mind that you’ve only just met – and that texting all day but not meeting would likely muddle things. It can result in a high intensity early on which burns out. People have lives and feel tired sometimes – he may have perfectly reasonable reasons for not texting as often. Or he could not be feeling it as much- it’ hard to tell. The lockdown has made dating much harder for people.

It’s also unclear where you guys stand romantically – are you a couple? Has that chat happened yet? If not, then it can feel a bit early to expect, for example, daily contact. But every couple is different.

It would be reasonable for him to tell you what you want out of dating – that you’d appreciate more conversation. But he may not be the kind of guy who enjoys that or can give it to you. You may have to be prepared that he may not change – can you accept if your dating continued like that ? It sounds like you didn’t like it even before lockdown.

If it’s something you’re prepared to compromise on, then carry on. If you can’t, then you may eventually need to find a man who can communicate as much as you want.