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Ana
hi all- just curious why my ex-bf would text me on Christmas. i’m not trying to look too deep into it- just curious if if he’s just being nice or has other motives.
background: we met and started dating almost 4 years ago. we dated for 1 full year and then he suddenly broke up with me over his commitment issues (or so what i think are commitment issues). he reached out to me frequently after the breakup and we eventually got back together a few months later. we then dated for another 6 months when he broke up with me again for reasons i didnt understand (and still dont understand). we didnt talk much after that breakup and i started moving on with my life and dating other guys. he then reaches out to me about a year later telling me how he’s not over us and blah blah blah. we spent some time together and then basically stopped talking again. its as if he just needs a quick fix and then its goes distant again.
anyway, we didnt see each other for about 7 months after that. we ran into each other in october and that was about it.
i’m currently dating someone and honestly dont think about my ex the way i used to. sure- i would love for us to be together and things be good. my EX made me so happy and i wish things were different, but i know that he has issues that i cant help with.
anyway, on sunday i get a text at 11am “merry christmas cutie ;)”
we didnt leave off on terrible terms and i wish him the best. just honestly really curious why he would feel the need to text me. i’m sure i’m overthinking it… but it’s just a bit strange to me. i really liked seeing his text because i do still have feelings for him that will never go away- no matter how hard i try.
anyone else have similar situation where the ex texted? we dont have kids together nor do we have mutual friends. and its been almost 3yrs since our first breakup and like 9 months since we got together.
Harley
3 out of 4 exs from the past 2 yrs got in touch.
It always happens.
2 of the same ones texted last yr.
they are nostalgic over Xmas. ..but most of all want it to seem like they are good guys and if they can reel you back in.
The mean some of it nicely. .but they sure as hell don’t want us back longterm.
Ollie
Yes. It happens every year. Expect to get texts about a week before Valentine’s day too if the ex is single.
Nat
it’s Christmas, people send wishes to everyone on their contact list. don’t think too much into it. if he wants to see you and talk he’d call and ask.
Lane
Yup…I received four; an ex before I dated my (now ex) husband; my ex husband; and two guys I previously dated.
Was very surprised with my ex-husband’s because he’s in a new relationship…every time he texts me out of the blue there’s usually a break up involved lol
It means nothing other than having a moment of nostalgia; their bored and rummaging through their contact list; or just wanting to wish you a merry christmas.
Eagle
No, my ex and I are finished and I most definately did not hear from him on Christmas or any other time. And my other ex does not text women unless he has a reason.
Ana
Thanks everyone.
i dont feel like reaching out to any of my exes during the holidays or their bdays…. so just found it interesting that he would.
anyway, i’ll just take it for what it is. a basic text. nothing more.
Mary
My ex from 27 years ago has been texting since Easter. Now a Christmas text. I firmly believe you are on his mind, but it’s too late for thoughts of reconciliation. You are in a good place, so no answer or a short response is plenty.
My ex is married, so this is really annoying, I don’t respond. Cheers to the new men!Algo
They sure did.
My argentinian ex asked me if I wanted to come visit in Barcelona, told him I had a Bf now and he said he could come too.
The Spanish ex texted me, we’re still friendly and talk every once in a while. He’s not doing so well with his new gf and he likes to loan about her sometimes, other than that we just like keeping each other informed on our lives.
Then a fwb Guy got in touch, seeing as he broke up with his gf, if It was interested in weapons myself in a box for christmas. Lol.
And a guy I dated a few times early this year got in touch as well. We went out for drinks (he knows I’m in a serious relationship now) and we had a great time. He got a job next to mine so we’ll be keeping in touch in 2017.
So yeah, loads of them do.
Jamie
Hey….none of mine did….now I’ve got a complex lol
Ana
thanks for the responses!
i think theres a difference between guys you casually dated and a boyfriend you were in love with and know that there are still feelings there. i dated a guy from Spain and we whatsapp a lot and he vents to me about his gf’s, etc. i dont think its the same as someone you have feelings for. i get texts all the time from other guys that i casually have dated in the past and dont think anything of it. if anything- its cool to hear from them.
anyway, the ex-bf gchatted me yesterday asking how my Christmas was and what i’m doing for NYE. i gave him a very very short response… like i said- i’m seeing someone now and do not want to get trapped into any stupid games. (if the ex came back telling me that he wants to give it another go- i would consider it because i still have feelings for him)
i think its really weird that he is talking to me all of a sudden- especially during such a busy time like the holidays.
Wendy
I did not receive a Merry Christmas text from my ex this year at all, although we have been in touch sporadically and he kept saying he loved me each time.
Since we did not break up on bad terms (distance was reason) we agreed to chat every now and again, and catch up on each other’s lives.
Why my ex couldn’t just send a two word text to wish me a happy holidays is beyond me. I am very hurt he did not send anything at all. Know I cannot control other people but I thought we truly cared about each other.
I am beginning to think now he didn’t care and that those words were meaningless.
Harley
Oh …for God’s sake. it’s not weird. ..it’s normal. ..where ex guys are concerned.
and your reply to him was too much and over the top ….telling him you have a bf yet don’t want to get trapped unto stupid am games…..Let’s him know he stands a chance with you.
bad move imo.
Ana
hey Harley – thanks for your reply. however, thats not what i wrote back to him. i merely told him that my xmas was nice and i’m going out for NYE. thats it.
Nat
if you want to reconcile then all those “wishes” is a good opportunity. But there could be other opportunities too, so don’t read much into it one way or another. Wishes can mean more to some people than to others. Men and women alike. Some are very touchy and some don’t care. If he wants to reconcile and you two have feelings for each other there will be another opportunity. Or he will create one. lol
Annie
No way to know why. You’re only wasting your own time trying to figure this one out. He’s your ex. Why do you care or even have his number in your phone?
Elle
My ex-bf texted me on Christmas too. So weird lol. He texted “Merry Christmas to you” and I responded wishing him a Merry Christmas too. He never texted back and I haven’t heard from him anymore this week! I think I’ll block him for the New Year, lol. On to better things…
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