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Missy
I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We’ve known each other for years but we then started seeing each other regularly, although we were never made an official couple because he didn’t want a serious relationship. I was sad to hear that he didn’t want a relationship and tried to end things 2 months in, just to avoid myself from getting emotionally invested but we reconnected again and then continued to see each other weekly and talk almost daily. Then one day he said in a comment in passing that we were dating- but he refused to define it as an exclusive relationship (even though he told me he wasn’t seeing anyone else right now).
I knew from the beginning he wanted to have sex because he would try each time we made out but i kept refusing and he would stop trying. I told him I need to know we are exclusively dating before I will do anything further. Each time we hang out, we make out a lot and one day (after 4 months) I finally got to a point where i was comfortable with him taking my bra off- so we made out naked but no sex.
After that, we still continued to talk as usual for about a week but suddenly he stopped responding to me and now I wonder if this has anything to do with the fact that I let my guard down and got naked with him. Did he lose interest/respect because he saw me naked and he decided he was just going to disappear? I’m really hurt because it has been 2 weeks now since his last message and I’m afraid of reaching out again and getting no response. I’m trying to move on but it’s so hard for me since my feelings have grown deeper after four months of constant connection and I feel like I don’t have any closure as to what happened
Newbie
I doubt it has anything to do with you being naked but more with the fact he cant get more. Meanwhile you have serious hearing problems: he doesnt want a serious relationship. He told you twice. So why are you still dating this guy and thinking he will change his mind. Thats the real issue here
Ss
He has lost interest bc you won’t have sex with him. He probably thought he was in luck when he got you naked but you stopped things progressing – which is absolutely your right and a decent man that wants to date you and be your bf would have respected you and been patient not just keep pushing and then drop you bc you wouldn’t put out.
The thing is though- he doesn’t want to date you or be your bf. He told you that already.
Take his absence as a good thing- you would feel a lot worse if you did have sex with him and he disappeared – which he certainly would have!
Kim
Hello, sadly I have been in a situation almost identical to yours. And I can honestly say he just wanted sex. He was looking for sex from the beginning and was hoping you’d eventually cave.
Once you made out with him naked and didn’t give in (good for you btw) he realized he really wasn’t going to get anymore off of you. So he ditched.
I am sorry you had to go through, believe me I know how painful this is. Literally the same thing happened to me last year.
But just think it has nothing to do with you at all, he clearly wants to play around and you do not want to be with someone like that. Hope you feel better!
Keke
So i have been dating this man close to a year we just ended our relationship a couple days to a week ago and with this virus pandemic goin on my attitude has gotten worse because of the shelter in place. But the thing is h constantly says he loves me but is talking to another female. I am so confused because like I said he keeps telling me he loves me but constantly telling me to hit him up when I’m a better woman, but I also told him if you really loved me like you say you do you would still be here. But I am a good woman in every aspect the only thing is I can sometimes have really bad attitudes. I hurt and confused and I really need good advice right now because apart of me wants to keep trying but apart of me doesn’t want to keep trying because I’ve been with him thru thick and thin but he’s not here for me.
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Crystal
Cut it all tie with him. You can’t change his mind and get him to commit. He obviously just wanted something casual, he might come back in the future, but him leaving without notice was really immature of him. Do you really need this drama in your life?
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