Did he lose interest in me?

have been with this guy for a year and a half. I never met his friends or his family. When I ask to meet his parents his reply is always the same, “mom is sick, she has really bad vertigo. My dad doesn’t want to leave my mom.” I thought our relationship was great in the beginning because we worked together. Everyone we worked with, told me to not give him the time of day because they didn’t like his overly confident, hardworking, and blunt personality. He met my entire family. We went on multiple dates. It took a while for him to ask me out for each date. We only had sex twice. He lives an hour away. Things changed when he got a new job. His new job came with crazy hours. His new job was also very stressful. That’s when we stopped seeing each other in person. We texted every day and through out the day. Our conversations never changed. We were each other’s cheerleaders. However, he never texted me when he would get home from work. He told me he was too tired to let me know he was home, “I get home at 3am or 4am, I’m exhausted from work. I get home and pass out.” He never texted me on his days off. I would always learn he was with friends the next day. Is it that difficult for him to let me know he is home or busy with friends? Recently, I started questioning on where we are at in our relationship. His reply was always, “your in your head too much. I told you my hours were crazy. You know my job is stressful. Is someone telling you to not trust me because I’m not around?” I’m getting the “I’m being annoying vibe.” I recently sent him a text asking to talk about our relationship. He told me to “cut him loose because he isn’t there with me and not spending enough time with me as much as we would like. He also said, “I’m not being an inadequate boyfriend that can’t provide for your needs.” My therapist says he is gaslighting me. My one friend says there are just a lot of holes and red flags in his communication. I just recently broke up with him and I feel horrible about it.