Did He Lose Interest or Am I Overanalyzing

OMgosh. If a guy came back with “I’m getting the friend vibe” I would have said well cool, but I really don’t need any more friends so best of luck.” THE END FOREVER

Why are you having this discussion over text? Talk to him and get it straightened out. I swear two thirds of the problems on here are because people insist on hiding behind a text message rather than communicating .. no wonder everyone is so confused and upset. They are too busy trying to translate cryptic text messages when the phone actually has the ability to TALK to someone. Why are people so afraid to talk to someone that they supposedly want a relationship with?

Call him and ask to plan a meet up!!! Jesus Christ! What is wrong with people. ??

*he’s free to talk on the phone or if you both can meet in person. All you have to do is leave it at asking for a meeting at this point. Best to be direct and honest.

I agree, good luck!! Please keep us posted!

Patti – it’s not about creating our own drama. I know he works until late and I don’t like disturbing people at work because I too don’t appreciate calls while at work unless they are urgent. Everyone’s situation is different.

Carla – Thanks! Most people here have been supportive and non-judgmental so I absolutely will keep everyone posted.

Lisa,

Keep us updated. I’m curious to know how this meeting will go.

Here’s the final update on my situation – I met the guy yesterday (good thing by then I was pretty removed emotionally from the situation by then) and within a few minutes of him talking, I realized he’s a wannabe “nice” gentleman but in reality is a douche.

First he told me I gave him the friend vibe with no explanation. I figured it was because I didn’t make out with him or stay over (he didn’t say that). Then he went on to say how I didn’t reach out to him for a few days (hmm… he could have contacted me as well and as it is I was the one who reached out after our last date so he could have clearly called/texted if he wanted to) so he wasn’t sure of what I wanted. He then went on and on to say how he put in so much effort to meet me yesterday since it was a busy week for him. By then I had heard enough things to turn me off and was done with him so I decided to put him on the spot to get a clear answer… I point blank told him I am looking for a potential serious long term relationship and that we should continue the conversation only if he wants to give this a real chance… he said he is not feeling the chemistry enough to give it a proper chance.

Bottomline, all in it came across as though he was trying to transfer all blame on me when in reality he didn’t have the courage to say he wasn’t feeling it after our last date.

My gut says this one is a narcissistic male and in hindsight, I am thankful it’s done with.

Good riddance.

I’m sorry things didn’t work out. There are some men out there who can’t take responsibility and have to project things.

Nice job – SO many women would be saved heartache if they asked what you asked on the first date (or first 3 dates at the latest). That question is perfect because it does not scare away men who do want a reltionship but always scares away men that are going to waste your time.