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T from NY.
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Daisy
So, in these weird quarantined times, I matched with this one guy, and amongst all the lame conversations I seem to be having lately, he seemed really enthusiastic and fun to talk to. We’ve spoken on the phone a couple of times (all of which he initiated), he always would check in in the morning to see how I was feeling (I had been sick). He mentioned wanting to do a FaceTime. We agreed to do it Weds, but I ended up still feeling ill, so we agreed to another time.
Friday morning were texting and he asks if I want to do the FaceTime thing that night or this weekend. So I said tonight sounded good, and we agreed to 8p. The time comes, I text him to see if he’s ready and NOTHING.
I’m very sensitive to being ghosted or disrespected, so by the time Sunday comes around, I’ve given up and decided to move on from it, so I deleted our convo and unmatch. Of course, an hour later he calls me (I missed the call and he didn’t leave a VM). Was I too rash in deleting? My friends are saying I should call him back, but that doesn’t sit well with me. Thoughts?
T from NY
Never give a man a chance to diss you twice. Unless he sent a text or left a voicemail apologizing profusely and saying he was sick, there was a car accident or some other emergency -I wouldn’t give him the time of day again.
Real men don’t need second chances. They will come to you and say why they needed to let you down and try to fix it. Let them do the work or you’ll never know their true interest or character.
K
He didn’t call until two days after the time HE suggested and didn’t bother to leave a VM? Bye Felicia. Timewaster.
Zoe
I would cut him off too
Too early for BSjaqlin
trash. dont call back
xoxo
Yeah, don’t bother with this one!
Craig Presley
Relationship ended on April 8, 2020. Not in a good place.
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Daisy
Agreed with all of the above. I didn’t call him back. He then texts me tonight asking if I’d forgive him. That he ended up falling asleep, blah blah. I responded back saying that I’m not into drama, I treat people how I want to be treated and I’m good on my word, and his behavior showed bad character. He then responds by asking if he can call to explain. At this point I’m just curious to hear what he could possibly say at this point, so I said ok, he can call at 10p, which he agreed to.
And then he DIDNT CALL! Should have seen that one coming. I just don’t understand what goes on in people’s minds. Anyway, moving on!
K
What a load of baloney. If he’d really just “fallen asleep” he would have called you in the next morning. Also, I don’t know a man who makes a date to talk with a woman he’s keen on and then falls asleep before the call. He would have set an alarm to get up if he really needed a nap that badly.
I’m glad you told him off, but really you let him waste more of your time and energy. His behavior told you everything you needed to know about him. No need to give him a chance to say anything else. I hope you will trust that next time instead of engaging further with a liar and a loser.
You should have already blocked him before. Now you definitely need to do it. He will be back otherwise. You don’t need it.
T from NY
I am not judging you because we’ve all had to learn the hard way —but my advice about never let a man diss you twice is ringing pretty true right now…
A friend of mine recently did the same thing except she agreed to talk to a guy after he dumped her to go back to his ex girlfriend. He was so apologetic and thanked her for talking to him again. After another couple of weeks goes by and – guess what? Ding,ding, ding – he again faded and stopped replying. She found out he’s back with the girlfriend again.
Men rarely, rarely get second chances with me. Data collected over years of dating has just proven – men who want a woman do not chance pissing her off. They work hard and try not to flake. These days I give zero energy to tepid men.
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