Did I overreact?

Thanks for your thoughts, Becca and Ashley. Judy, I understand where you are coming from but this is one bad thing in a pool of really great things. I do think he was immature and dumb to do what he did but at the same time he has proved himself enough to me that I feel he deserves a second chance.

I’m not defending him by any means because obviously what he did bothered me and that’s why I raised it with him. If I didn’t think that there was anything worth staying around for then I would have no problem leaving but there’s so much stuff I love about him and this is the first time that he has done something that has made me consider walking away. I won’t tolerate crap from anyone and he knows this and I have been quite firm with him that if he plans on doing it in the future then I won’t be around to see it.

Maybe I am naïve in regards to guys’ online activity but so be it. I will be with a guy that doesn’t do this because he values my feelings more than the cheap thrills of inappropriate commenting.

Good to know you have thought it through and know what you want and deserve Nat :)

Social media had caused me enough nuisance that I took myself off Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Line, Wechat all at once a bit more than a year ago and I dun miss it… :P

at one point my ex’s behavior drove me crazy and i was obsessed with following every move he made on those countless platforms… up to a point i just couldn’t take it anymore… i could monitor as much as I wanted on those I know of but there would always be more coming up, Skout, Tinder…

so what the heck I dumped his ass, dumped all these social medias (thought it was temporarily but now since i dun miss it, i have still yet to reactivate my fb account) and decided to live my life a bit old school back to the age before fb is invented :P

Hi Natalie.

I agree with you, but I was just trying to point out that guys view life through a different lens, because their brains are wired differently and are fueled by testosterone so being a bit more understanding of this would help in making you feel less insecure. My guy friend told me they think about sex A LOT, just a woman standing in the grocery store will conjure up all kinds of thoughts. They literally can’t help it, no differently than women can’t help breaking down and crying when they feel overwhelmed, hurt or sad. Your guy would be like, why are you crying when watching one of those romantic chick flicks and you would be hard pressed to explain it to him because you really don’t understand it yourself, its just something that happens that you don’t really think about or have any control over…same concept.

Its good to have these discussions by taking the time to understand their position first, then tell them yours before making a request, as long is its REASONABLE, which this is, and he’s CAPABLE of doing it, which he is. I understand why it would bother you and make you feel uncomfortable when he’s oogling a bunch of women in front of you, when you should be the only one he wants to oogle :-)

I honestly haven’t been faced with this myself, but that’s because I don’t use social media all that much. When I’m with a guy I’ve never seen him use it in front of me because we’re always doing activities together, but what he does in his off time is his to do with. Maybe finding things to do; like a drive to a scenic town, game of mini-golf, a movie, hanging with friends, playing a game of twister, that kind of stuff will keep him off it when your together and also get him to ‘un-hook’ from it for awhile too—win, win :-)

I don’t think you overreacted. If a guy has relationships he shouldn’t like other girls photos. I had this problems with my ex. He passed too much time on Instagram so I decided to monitor him, found service Snoopreport and I saw that he liked tons of girls photos. So I told him to stop but he refused. We argued a lot and finally we broke up because such behavior is unacceptable for me