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    Ge

    So a guy from work that I never talked to before asked me if I had a boyfriend and got my number about 2 weeks ago. He texted me every day and it was pretty much just some light conversations and nothing serious. We joked around a lot though. We actually don’t see each other at work much because our schedules rarely match and we work at different parts of the store.

    Backstory because it will be relevant. I’m very young(graduated high school last year) and was homeschooled my whole life with strict parents who didn’t allow me to date. I am a virgin and have zero experience with boys, but I don’t call myself innocent because ya know, 😉 there’s such things as toys and videos and such that I’m very familiar with at this point.

    Anyways, yesterday we did work together for several hours and had fun but didn’t really talk much more than just friend stuff.

    Anyway, after I left work he texted me and was flirting and I was having a good time not bothered at all, but looking back now I suppose it seemed as though I was brushing him off. He asked what Id do if he smacked my ass and I said I’d knock him out and so on. I’m a tough country girl and I kinda like messing with dudes to make sure they know Im not easily played with. I was saying it in a joking manner, but now I can see how he’d see it as me blowing him off.

    Eventually he started talking about sex and I jokingly told him he’d have to wait for a while for anything serious because I’m just trying to work on saving up money for my own place so I can get away from my parents (who still are pretty strict even though I’m an adult). He said he understands because he’s trying to get his own place as well.

    We got to talking about how we were raised and I told him some about my life and he just straight point blank said “so you’re a virgin who couldn’t ever get a bf because of strict parents is what I’m hearing” 😱 I didn’t think I ever gave that vibe off and we’ve never talked about previous relationships before or any of that.

    I didn’t agree with him because at the time I felt embarrassed, but I did jokingly tell him he’s blunt as hell and then said I’m not as innocent as you think. He never was rude, just was very blunt and straightforward and said I should be blunt too and not let anxiety in the way.

    I think where I messed up was saying I don’t think I’m HIS type. He is 💯 my type, but I honestly don’t see why he’d want to be with me and I kinda miscommunication with him that he seemed like the type to want a girl more experienced
    than I am when I just meant to say that I don’t think he’d like being with a girl like me.

    We ended on a good note, but he hasn’t texted me today besides replying with an emoji to something I sent. I’m scared that he’s getting the vibe that I don’t like him when I really actually do like him a lot. My anxiety gets the better of me and I have a horrible time communicating that or texting him first.

    Thanks in advance to whoever has read this far. I know I’m overthinking, but I had to rant lol

    #876692 Reply
    Raven

    You didn’t mess anything up. He sounds like a creeper…

    Seriously, do not date guys you work with & especially ones who lead with sex talk.

    #876774 Reply
    Maddie

    Was going to say something similar to what I see Raven already said. Are you looking for a relationship? Because it seems he’s looking for something fast and casual. I wouldn’t go there with a coworker. Not worth the risk if it’s not going to be a real thing.

    #876849 Reply
    Ewa

    no, he clearly just want to have sex with you, he stopped texting because he realised you will be hard work (good for you) and he will have to wait and it is not what he wants. So really no loss here, he wasn’t worth it anyway

    #876886 Reply
    Erin

    Nope, pretty much agree with everyone. He just wanted sex, seeing that’s when his interest peaked when he was talking about sexual issues.

    He realized he’d have to put in more work to get there and he bailed. You don’t want a guy who does the bare minimum.

    Listen sweetie, you haven’t had a lot of experience with guys so it will look like each guy who showers you with attention is 100% your type, under ordinary circumstances this guy is looking for a hook up not a relationship and NOT your type.

    I would advise that you ease yourself into the whole dating scene as opposed to going in guns blazing especially if you lack experience because such guys can ruin your dating experience.

    It’s supposed to a fun period of self discovery and slower is always better.

    #876904 Reply
    tammy

    i think you should not get involved with your colleagues or coworkers.

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