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Angela
One of my brother’s close friends was pursuing me for the last 3 months and likely had a crush on me for over a year. However, he decided to end things about 3 weeks ago. I suspect the reason is based on a conversation I had with his cousin. This immediately occurred after he learned of my age from his cousin (though I always assumed he knew my age since he has been my brother’s friend for almost a decade). I am 4.5 years older than him (he is 28 and I am 33). He also happened to make an appearance a few days ago with his new girlfriend (I was not present but heard of it later). I am a bit heartbroken but I firmly know that I need to move on as I did not deserve to be blindsided in this manner. I will have to see him for 4 days this entire weekend for an unavoidable event that we are attending with our mutual friends and siblings. I don’t know if he will be bringing his girlfriend.
What is the best way to make sure this is the not too painful or awkward? I would like to remain confident and happy when I have to see him.
Padmini
Hi, Angela,
The Weekend is still Days away. You could thus take the Initiative to Move-On by engaging in a Hobby or Setting-Out to meet New Prospects.
During the Weekend: you can occupy yourself with your Friends.
Good Luck!
Rubi
I think he stopped pursuing things with you because things with the new girlfriend was working out and not necessarily because of your ages.
What you do in this situation is just accept thigs for what it is. When you see him be yourself. Treat him as a person who lost an opportunity with you. What I mean is be civil. Keep it platonic. Talk as normal and respect his relationship and the girlfriend as this will show you respect yourself. Don’t bring up anything. Don’t talk to him one on one make sure you’re in groups always. Have fun on that event. Laugh. And look bomb as hell. This will show your confidence.
Mary
Pretend he is not even at the event. The mind is powerful. If he says hello, pretend he is a fellow you never had interest. Definitely do not engage conversation with him or hang around him. I feel you have to filter of such things and take care if YOURSELF.
Angela
Thank you Padmini, Rubi and Mary for the great, timely advice! I will definitely be using these tips for the weekend.
Rubi, I had not considered that perspective that it could be something other than age so thanks for mentioning that.
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