Difficulty In early stages of dating, can you help me?

It’s pretty normal to stay on apps for several dates. That doesn’t mean they’re actively searching for new people, but they may be in the middle of other conversations with matches they made before you that they’re still exploring or don’t want to go through the hassle of deleting their accounts until things are official. That’s normal enough, as is checking if you happen to get new messages and matches in the meantime. Again, it doesn’t mean they’re actively pursuing other people that are also interested. Though even if they are, after only a couple dates, that’s okay, too. Most decent men I’ve met will drop other people from dating apps if they’re getting on date 3-5 with a woman they really like and it’s going well with them. So, not for at least a month into getting to know someone, and not necessarily deleting the account until they’re actually official. But not really using it actively, either.

You can decide you only want a guy immediately focused on you if you feel that’s a values match for you, since obviously as a single mother you want to be cautious getting involved. But if your concern is based out of insecurity, that a guy won’t be loyal to you unless he is totally focused on only you immediately, I think you’re doing both of you a disservice because it takes more than 2-3 dates to get to know someone. Investing faster is getting attached to fantasy aspects. And not everyone moves at the exact same speed, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t decent, don’t want the same things as you, and won’t get there shortly.