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Cindi
….even if they are in a happy relationship?
My BF just admitted to me that when we are not together for a few days, he masturbates and sometimes watches porn. We have a very healthy sex life, we are majorly into each other and I’d say have very good communication.
When he said that, I jokingly said, well you could think of me instead of watching other women. He leaned over, kissed me and said I do think of you. I left it at that, I didn’t know what to add.
Background: I’m 38, he is 43. We both have kids. We don’t live together, but our lives are very integrated. We’ve been together just over year.
Raven
Yes…
Liz Lemon
Yes. What you’re describing is normal.
If he were watching porn constantly, or watching porn to the extent that it interfered with your sex life, it would be a different situation. But it sounds like he’s a normal, healthy guy.
Kalyn
I hate using words like “all”, but for the most part, yes they do…even the happily committed ones. Unless it interferes in your interactions, it has nothing to do with you, isn’t a replacement for you and is typically nothing you should feel threatened by.
Cindi
Thank you for the feedback! Yes I thought as much, that it’s nothing. He is truly fond of me and expresses that all the time.
I guess I just felt a little bit taken aback that he would share that with me. Especially since we don’t live together and me being a typical woman, thinking that had he lived with me, he wouldn’t need to watch other naked women.
He has also been very open about his sexual fantasy, which is girl on girl. He doesn’t expect me to do it, but 2 women is his fantasy. Idk, I’m just venting I suppose. He did say to me after revealing this to me that he thinks about me too when he’s ‘busy’. So I suppose I’ll just have to let this one slide.
Thanks!
Newbie
I think he is opening up to you about fairly common sexual fantasies. I would take this as a good sign
Liz Lemon
I agree with Newbie, I would actually take it as a good sign that he’s comfortable opening up to you about his fantasies and porn/masturbation habits.
Aren’t most guys into girl on girl stuff? I swear I don’t know of any guys that aren’t turned on by that. My boyfriend certainly is. So it’s not at all surprising that that’s his fantasy.
And I’ll add that I think pretty much all men enjoy looking at naked women! It’s just how they’re wired. It doesn’t matter if he lives with you and thinks you’re beautiful (which I’m sure he does). He will still enjoy seeing porn. All within reason of course, but it sounds like your guy has a healthy attitude about it, like I said. (For what it’s worth, I like to watch porn sometimes too, and my boyfriend knows about it and is turned on by it. In no way does it interfere with my sexual attraction to my boyfriend…if anything it enhances it, I fantasize about doing stuff that I see with him. So I can’t speak for your boyfriend and I’m not a guy, but for me personally as a woman, watching porn makes me more horny for my boyfriend, not less).
Warasen
I haven’t watched porn in over a decade. I’m of the generation that porn came on a film reel then the idea of browsing the porn section of the video tape rental store was too intimidating. I got into reading erotic stories which I really enjoy to this day. My wife would hate it I watched porn cause of how exploitative it is. The Linda Lovelace story has left a really bad impression of that industry with her
Sophia
Yes, they do.
So do a lot of women. (Guilty myself!)
Cindi
Thanks for the feedback!
relaxy taxi
😉 hee hee
bubbly
Yes, it’s normal…
I had not experienced similar before, until I met this one person.
I didn’t need porn, just the image of him and our prior encounters did it for me.
That’s the clean version ;-)
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