do EX's always come back??

Mine have come back when I completely forgot about them and ended up becoming a better person for me, not them.

The first one was my first bf. We broke up because he had a weird reaction to something and became physical with me. I dumped him on the spot. A year later he started calling me again. No thanks.

The second was my second bf. We dated for 6 weeks and then his ex-gf from 3 years prior moved back to the area and he wanted to get back with her. I acted like it wasn’t a thing, went along my merry way, had fun, planned for college, etc. At the end of that school year (6 months later) he realized that his ex had become a nag and a bore, realized that I’d been a great gf and practically begged for me back. We dated for another year and a half. It was a good relationship. He, to date, has been my best boyfriend, actually.

The third was my ex-husband. We dated for a year while I was living overseas. Then I moved to his town, we moved in together and it was a disaster. He dumped me and then I mourned for months. Finally, a friend in grad school was shaking me telling me it was time to move on. I did. I lost weight, grew out my hair, and felt so much better about myself. I started dating again and was seeing a doctor. My ex found out about it, saw me looking great and came back for me. We were together for 16 years total.

In all of these cases I had mourned the loss, but then truly moved on. I focused on me. I was happy being me. And then they came back, for better or worse. I hope you get what makes you happy. :-)

I agree, in my case, all but one came back at least once. They don’t always come back for good reasons, though. And women should be careful about taking them back.

@Waitwhat – I meant to ask you, how are you doing? It’s been 12 weeks for me and 3.5 months for you right?

Most of mine have come back..even when they cut communication.

By that stage. ..I’m over them
.and tell them feck off.

It. ..only makes them more interested and they stay in touch.

Currently 3 exs of mine stay in touch. ..hoping I’ll throw them some crumbs.

I genuinely like to stay friends wih
them and hear from them..but I’ve moved on from them.

I just found out he has a new girlfriend, which seems fast to me. Not that I want him back. I’m just hurt. I trusted him & even gave let him move in with me. And now he’s with someone else & won even talk to me

I think it’s actually better the longer they go no contact. Because then you both have had time to look at yourselves and change. You both also know if you actually want to be with that person. Whereas if you or they contact within 30 days it’s usually because you miss each other. Missing someone doesn’t mean your relationship will work.
I’ve had most guys contact me after 3 months even to a year. Never got back with any of them. But that’s because I had time to think “do i really want this?” work on yourself, if it’s meant to be it will be.

I’m trying to be strong. I just have this weird feeling that he’s going to come back eventually, cause that’s what he’s done before.

Umm well he wouldn’t talk to me for a year. Then when I was over him & had moved on & had totally stopped contacting him, he came wanting to be friends. But we ended up not talking again for about 2 months. I didn’t try to talk to him at all. Then in July he messaged me & said he misses me & was moving back to my town. He said he wanted a second chance.

London- so you think he will come back? its not that i want him back but i miss being able to talk to him. we could about pretty much anything.

Thanks for the advice London. I think you’re right

I’ve known people to get back together after they’ve dated other people. Sometimes dating someone else can make them realise that their ex was better.

But no one can ever tell you for sure. The best thing I think you can do is like everyone else said; mourn the loss and work on yourself. If he comes back and it works out – great! If not, you are free to meet new guys and you may realise they’re so much better than your ex :)

No I haven’t. The funny thing is I have seen him in traffic a couple times

Katie – my ex hb has a new gf and is STILL tryna come back. :)

@NY2GAgirl – you have a good point – there are certain situations where I wouldn’t want them back. It is rare that people change, but sometimes they do. Maybe they weren’t ready for a relationship due to career or school? Maybe they were immature and now grew up. It depends on how it ended also. I am good friends with my ex (he lives very far away)- and always jokes that if it doesn’t work with my BF, he will have a shot in the future. My BF and I broke up in the past – not for long – but we got back together and things changed for the better.

So, yes, it is possible if there wasn’t a huge bridge burning during the break up – and if you really loved each other. But if the person was abusive or intentionally hurtful – I could never go back with someone like that.