do EX's always come back??

@NY2GAgirl so you think there’s a chance he’ll still come back?

I don’t know why but I’ve been thinking about my ex a lot lately. I miss him.

I love reading everyone’s stories. From my experience, all of mine have in one way or another. Last year by March, I had 2 that I dated from 2014 come back and one from 2012.

Now, I will say that as of today, I am STILL hoping the one I dated at the end of 2014 comes back (and no, I am not proud that I’m still pining over him). I spent all of 2015 trying to get over him. I did date others but no one I was really attracted to, but I did try. Officially, I am the one who walked away but I felt I had no choice. He said he was a “mess” and needed to get his life in order (finances). My ego would LOVE to believe that he has not come back because he is still not in the place to give me what I want and he respects me too much to come back when he’s not truly ready. My heart would BREAK if the truth was he wasn’t that into me and moved on from me. I am very well aware that could be the case. I texted him last May and he responded, but that’s all I’ve heard from him since. Here I am 8 pathetic months later, and he’s still on my mind.

I decided to not date at all right now until I get myself right physically, spiritually and emotionally. I really do need to rid him from my mind and memory. Somedays I want to call him so bad and say, “Dammit, I miss you…” The thing that really gets me is I don’t think he knew how strong my feelings are for him. He may have thought I forgot him by now? Oh well, I’m not reaching out to him again. His response in May broke my heart. I’m not ready to go through that BS again.

I look forward to singing Chris Brown’s song “Zero” to him some day. The first verse in that song has me SMH…

I thought we were great
You took your love back and ran us off track
I count all the days,
‘Til you would come back, how stupid was that?

(Yes, I am in my late 30s and referencing a Chris Brown song….AND??? LOL) I’m no longer counting the days and slowly accepting the fact that he may be one where I never hear from him again??? We shall see….

It’s sad but the universe is guiding us and is showing us that those men are not right for us now or maybe ever. If we was to contact I bet we would only be in more pain. So the best thing is to live our lives the way we want and then we may even not want to be with them

Him& his GF broke up, like I knew they would

I’ve just had a break up a few days ago, he’s been texting after 2 days seemed upset that I no longer care ! Yet he did the break up – I’ve told some friends so now it’s a case of what if we get back together do I tell them as my best friend now hates him. X

megan – no I haven’t heard from him. I tired to do the 30 days I contact but I ended up reaching out right before the 30 days where up, with no reply. So I’m not gonna try to contact him anymore. This might sound crazy but I think he might still come back. I just feel like we have unfinished business.
Has unone else felt this way?

That’s really helpful for whatever happens in the future. Sadly, looking back I don’t think I really set standards for him. I think that’s part of what wet wrong. We didn’t communicate very well about our expectations for the relationship

I’ve read all the comments now. Sorry about your break-up. It is hard. I think you need to let it go. Stop asking if he will come back. We do not know him and have no way of predicting of he will come back unfortunately. I understand that you miss him but you also stated that you didn’t want him back so don’t wait around. Delete his number and move on. If he comes back, deal with it then. If he doesn’t come back, so be it. Best of luck, Kathie.

Hi I’m sorry I don’t have an answer to that but can I ask a similar question? If they have moved onto someone else should I still think he’ll come back? We were great together but it was distance that broke us up. I’m really struggling with being apart, and would love us to get back together but don’t know whether to hope or not?

Very interesting reading all the stories of exes coming back. Obviously got me thinking about my own dating history and while I might have mourned some relationships for a short while, I never ever considered getting back with any of them. I guess I just didn’t consider it as a possibility at all. In any event, I moved house and changed my phone number, it would have been near impossible for anyone to track me down!

I remember when I ran into an ex once, one thing I couldn’t understand at the time was his ‘reaction’ when I told him I had moved and was now living here ie in this area, which wasn’t far from where he lived, as it happens. While most people, in my experience, including myself would have expressed mild surprise on learning this, he, on the other hand, appeared quite shocked! As it happens, I’d moved away shortly after we’d ended the relationship and changed my number. Needless to say, I never contacted him although I’d been living there for nearly a year.

Mine came back after about 18 years. We met up went to pictures and I was so glad when the movie ended!!!! He stank of BO, was covered in tattoos and basically looked like a tramp…lets do it again he said…ummm no thanks :)