do EX's always come back??

My experience is that most exes come back and the majority of them for the wrong reason, i.e., for an ego boost. If you do not contact them, dumper exes will usually contact you too just because of wondering how they lost your attention and affection, not because they really want something good and serious. So, best to move on, it can feed your ego if he contacts you but unless he makes very serious attempts, do not fall for him contacting you. Even with serious attempts, things often become cyclic and an ex is one for a reason. In rare cases it can work when both people have progressed on a personal level and are different and different dynamics can develop, where there have been serious feelings from both sides but something was off in the dynamics but this is not something you should ever hope for. Personal progress, yes, do work on yourself, this is the best you can do for yourself so history does not keep repeating itself. But even if you become an even better you, it does not mean he has and he will. Most likely not.

I have been in relationship for 6 months. And it is a long distance relationship. We have been through many ups and downs but we always stick to each other. We had serious break up only once And after that he came back through some friends help. But after 2 weeks we again fought and he broke it up with me. And this time he has blocked me from everywhere. What should I do?

#dumper exes will usually contact you too just because of wondering how they lost your attention and affection, not because they really want something good and serious#

So true. I remember when someone I had a casual fling with (he was FAR more interested than I was and he knew this) disappeared after I ended it, I found myself wondering where he was and what he was up to! I hadn’t the slightest intention of reigniting anything-I just missed the attention! He was a fair bit older than me so perhaps knew what he was doing!

I would most certainly advise taking time after a break-up to process and reflect on what went wrong-something I didn’t always do when I was much younger, opting instead to just ‘forget’ about it and move on! I remember once when I was very blindsided by a break-up (a combination of various other outside stresses and bad timing generally with some close friends I’d normally confide in away travelling etc) so much so I couldn’t see the woods for the trees. I just assumed he’d lost interest or was no longer attracted to me! Looking back some time later , I could see how I had brought the whole thing on myself-the guy in question had really little choice. He’d tried to talk to me about the issues leading up to the break-up but I was so self-absorbed and stressed about work issues etc, I failed to take his concerns on board. I’m far more self-aware (and experience1) now, thankfully.

Looking back, I just wasn’t in the right place for a relationship with….anyone. So a case of ‘right guy’ but wrong time!

I am sure my ex is going to come back. We just broke up and I did all that stupid begging stuff until I realized hey WTH am I doing I need to know my worth. I didn’t message him yesterday and he sent me a stupid humorous memes . I looked at it but never replied. Think about how he is going to feel when there isn’t going to be a single message in a week.

From all the begging and all complete silence is going to haunt him. He is talking to a girl actively but I know she is a rebound as she is far not close to his type.

Why are we letting ex’s decide for us? yes we love them but it doesn’t mean we sit around waiting for them. The bigger question is why are we so keen to have a lover in our lives? Yes having a partner is important but I would want a partner who never leaves me no matter what, he talks things out rather than taking this route.

The more you run after something the more it gets further. Stop thinking or hoping that he’s going to come back. And watch he will be at your door step :)

Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. There’s no way to answer this question.

Forgot to add in that even after he said all of those hurtful things to me he texted me on thanksgiving saying happy thanksgiving and then called me the same day at 3am when I didn’t reply. Super confused about that too

Tiny-I really don’t know since I moved house (sold to a property developer who tore it down to build apartments) and changed my number shortly after we broke up! Owing to my job, I’m not on FB……so who knows!!!!

To fast…. it would have to be external circumstances that broke us apart, like moving to a different country, amnesia or something like that, then maybe I would reconsider.

I forogot to add in that i would cry myself to sleep at least 3-4 nights out of 7 nights in a week because iw asnt allowed to initiate anything until he was wanting to. I am a very sexual person and he was attracted to me…when he broke up with me after i did what i did, he said that he needed to find himself and didnt want to be with anyone. I didnt believe it , especially last week when i saw his facebook , and the fact that he tagged this girl , one of his sistes best friends in his post. something about going spartan racing even though he never did those things with me. in my mind i know he did it to be spiteful because he knows that i would see it . I am probably doing much worse things than he is . I am the queen of petty , and I really try not to be because we are adults here. But he did treat me like crap in the end. Especially when he used to have nothing and i used to take care of him, then when he got promoted to be manager at his job , nothing was ever done for me, the beginning of december 2016 i had a birthday dinner with 15 ppl . he didnt offer to pay my bill or ask for them to bring me out cake. so i knew then and there he just didnt care. His excuse was he didnt have money on his card, but at that point he was making almost like $70,000 a year. So that was bs. I was so good to him and he said that didnt matter. so i was like ok….after begging a few times withing a few months i just said whatever. if he comes back which i highly doubt he will then idk if i would want him, although i still love him. I know i was wrong but I didnt want to leave him .

2 year old post

This post is way old.

I know that this is more than 2 years old but I wonder if OP’s ex came back…Katie update us lol!!!!

I only have 1 ex that was a loser, losers always come back. It’s not much of an achievement. I have another one that I casually dated 2 years ago, he rejected me for long term and I was devastated, now he asks if i’m single once every few months. I don’t want anything to do with him so I always lie telling him that I have a bf even though I don’t. He’s not a loser but he’s too average for my standards.

However, they don’t always come back. One guy I casually dated is now engaged 6 months after we ended. I never wanted him back though. His fiance is a perfect match for him. So if it’s meant to be it’ll happen!

Now the ex that I want back is definitely the top 1% compared to other men. He set the bar high. 6 months since we ended. He’s in another relationship right now which is killing me but i’m upgrading myself. He would be a fool not to revisit this. We shall see what happens in the future. :) Stay strong girlies!

@Emma

LOL!!!! Having big boobs would not hurt. A man I recently dated says he’s been noticing a trend where every girl gets a boob job after a breakup hahaha!

I’m upgrading by finishing grad school, after a solid career, I shall upgrade my wardrobe, pamper myself so I can look extra nice. If my ex doesn’t come back then the universe will allow me to attract a more suitable partner. In the end, everything works out regardless.