Do ghosters come back?

Btw, sometimes they do come back. Mostly because they are bored. It’s never out of concern because if they cared they wouldn’t have acted so badly in the first place. So really, you don’t want them to come back because all they will do is disappear again and create more emotional stress for you.

When they do come back around, their excuses are lame- just like them…

henriette is right on the money. When a person feels ok to do such a thing it speaks volumes about their character. Why do people don’t understand that?

You ask yourself if he’d come back. But ask yourself why he would do that. 90% of the time it is because things did not work out with someone else, they were dumped by someone else, and then they go back to a “nice” girl (or several) who took crap from them, to see if they can get validation and ego boost. They can have several “exes” they ghosted, so rotating them while going through a difficult time would provide them a type of therapy support for free.

Ghosters come back a lot! I would go as far as to same that many of them ghost specifically so that to have an “excuse” (in their mind it is an excuse) to come back as if nothing happened. If they end things with you, they would feel they have to come back and plea. But if they ghost, they just show up as if nothing happened and try to use you for their emotional needs. When a person’s mind works this way, it is better to stay away from them, because WITHOUT EXCEPTION this type of a person would be bad news in other ways down the road.

Stop being naive! Stop waiting for them to come back, this is foolish. You think they’d come back because they felt sorry, because they had feelings for you, but it is a delusion. A smart women would be UPSET if a ghoster comes back, because it would mean that more trouble, more emotional damage is on the way.

I am not talking about cases when you met once for a cup of coffee and oyu never heard from the guy before. Even those this is still very rude and impolite, these days it is almost the norm.

Ghosting is when you’ve formed some bond, when you talked, exchanged personal information, met several times. When a person ghosts after such things, you should tell yourself, it really feels awful but it is good I found out NOW, so that I can cut this person out of my life for good, I will not waste my time and emotions on them.

Even though the comeback may not be sincere. The possibility that they may apologize someday gives me comfort and closure that this can happen I don’t think I’d want them back but knowing helps at least for me

KK, did you do anything that you think would cause him to up and ghost you? Were you nasty and mean? do you have bad breath, don’t shower and smelly? did you steel from him and lied all the time? Were you bad kisser and horrible in Bed?

Yeah the point I am trying to make is if none of the above apply to your situation you should not be wanting this A hole back in your life.

Stop going on about closure, have some pride and dignity and find your own closure by blocking this loser on every thing possible.

You won’t listen this advice anyway because it seems you would gladly take him back however someone like this will do the same thing again. There are much better men out there for you to be with.

The reality is that they left without acknowledging me. It’s like I never existed. I don’t know why I can’t get over it. I feel so hurt. I know I should hate him.

Dang you guys are tough! I wish I was as strong and willing as you all. I thought this happens early on like from 1 or 2 dates didn’t think it would happen months later I would think he’d let me go with an explanation but now I’m learning that’s not the case

It’s easy to be tough when you’re not the person involved. It’s like when you can give good advice to friends because you’re seeing the situation objectively. It’s so much harder when your emotions are involved.

If he could treat you like that, he’s not a man you want in your life. It’s as simple as that.

Lame if this is what dating has come to. Leaving doors open just to conveniently walk back in. I was hoping for positive outcome from second chances

It really depends on how long you were together. If you were together for only a month or so, most of the time they don’t come back. There are always exceptions to the rule though. If you are together a few months which is what it sounds like, then there is a possibility that he will be back but you do want  someone who thinks it’s okay to do that? I guess we need more information. Sometimes guys can get a little freaked out around the three or four month mark. And if they start to pull away and you chase them, that causes them to pull away even more. If that is the case, then you want to give him his space completely.

Ghosting is the worst, I’m sorry this happened to you. But, for what it’s worth, you usually don’t truly know someone until about 6-12 months into a relationship — sometimes more! Up until this point, you thought you knew this guy and that he was a good one, and now you’ve learned something new about him that is NOT attractive. Thank your lucky stars that it happened sooner rather than later. I know someone who got ghosted by her FIANCE!! Found out months later that he’d moved in with another woman. Blegh.

And please stop thinking in terms of some “emotional unavailable” crap. Those terms are flashy modern cover ups over immoral rude and insulting behaviour. You say “emotionally unavailable” and every a-hole can look like a prof. Screw that BS.

Think in terms of normal human values. They did not go away, putting sociopathic terms over them do not change that. It is a deception in a way, to fool people. To prevent them from using normal judgment.

He is not emotionally unavailable, he is not brain dead. He is a-hole with no consideration for you as a person.