Do guys find women between 26-30 years old attractive?

Hi May.

Age is just an indicator of how long a person has resided on this earth and has nothing to do with how one looks, acts or feels about themselves or the world around them. Men are attracted to all ages, heck my brother-in-law is 9 years younger than my sister…they met when he was 20 and she was 29 with two sons (ages 11 and 5 I believe) and just celebrated their 19th wedding anniversary a few months ago!

How old are you?

Men who are looking to ‘settle down’ will more likely opt for a woman who’s fertile and/or at a phase in their life where they want to settle down too, but not always as some can’t help falling in love with a particular person regardless of their station in life. Based on ‘statistics’ the average age of couples marrying today is 29. It used to be much younger (early twenties) less than a few decades ago, but this whole education, women wanting careers, technology, and ease of ending relationships/marriages has been a barrier to this IMO.

I won’t tell you how old I am (dinosaurs come to mind) but I thought that surely when a woman hit my age men would not find them attractive.

Boy was I wrong…I find men (and men half my age) checking me out and flirting with me. I was shocked and still am when it happens.

All I can tell you is it won’t be over for a long long long time from your age, if ever, I’ll keep you posted.

No worries May, if a man wants to commit/marry you he will do so whether your 25 or 65! :-)

Hi, May.

I’m in my mid-twenties as well and I sympathize with your anxiety. Between older ladies warning us “not to waste our best years” on a bad guy or celebrity culture, we’re often encouraged to have unrealistic obsessions with our youth. It’s going so bad that we’re anxious men won’t find us desirable the minute our early twenties are in the rearview mirror.

Here’s what’s helped me. First, whenever I feel upset over this, I change my focus from “beauty” to “health.” I find that a good fitness regimen, careful habits about sun safety, and a great diet make me feel confident and sexy.

Second, it’s a good idea to choose an older female role model (35+). What insights can you gain from her successes in love? It can be someone you know (parent, relative, colleague, etc.) or a celebrity. Hope this helps!!

Ugh. I know it feels that way, May. Fortunately, it’s only like that in certain weird online cultures. Real men will be into a woman if she’s fun and easy to be with, whether she’s 18 or 40.

Nobody ever wanted me when I was a teen (I looked like a kid tho) or in my early 20’s. Everything turned around in my late 20’s, and I’ve been fighting them off with a stick ever since. Looking at pictures there’s not much difference, but after I travelled the world alone at 25, I came home confident and fearless, and genuinely not caring if they like me or not. (Stuff you can probably do without traveling the world). I’m over 30 now with the best bf ever. There’s this 24-year-old who keeps flirting with me, too, even though I told him I’m not interested & over 30 with a bf. He’s annoying. But it goes to show ya. I’m not uniquely pretty, and it’s not only me who gets this kind of attention – my older friends have similar experiences. Some of them are like, 20 years older.

My point is, don’t be scared of age. Young is WONDERFUL while you are. But it’s also the time when you create the kind of person you want to be. What kind of person do you want to be with? Then become that kind of person yourself :)

What gave me most confidence, which I’ll try to pass along to you, was the realization that ugly hookers are a thing, which tells you all you’ll ever need to know about men. I’ve worked in early childhood and daycare; I’ve seen some hose-beasts getting multiple guys and popping out babies like nobody’s business – some that DON’T EVEN BATHE.

Comic Amy Schumer said it well: “There is no bottom end to what guys will f*ck…you’ve all stepped over piles of garbage on your way into this show, that some guy, some where, would put his d*ck in…”

It follows that guys like all kinds of ages, but I think most of them see the hot girl first and the age second or hardly. Unless they’re superficial jerks who like bragging to their bros more than they like actual sex stuff with girls. (Avoid!)

I’m all about the older guys – go for it, if one is interesting or attractive to you – sometimes they really know how to treat a woman! And change a tire, and fix a furnace, and cook great food…

Quarter-life crisis is here I guess. Thank you all for the words. Khadija I will embrace my age and the person I wanna be. Time is not going backwards but when we are young we live like we are immortals, then we are realize we are just like anybody else. E, I do that “beauty” to “healthy” thing that makes me feel good.
Aires, thanks haha.
Heather, I will have to copy what you wrote to always read it when I need to feel better about the age and love/ dating issues. Really, thank you :) Hugs you all from Brazil!

Hi mike!!! We knew you would come back!

Squeaky is a great handle for a gay mike!