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Christina
the guy I have been seeing (2-3 months) is out of town for the next couple of weeks. before he left he asked if I was going to miss him, and of course I told him I would. well I haven’t heard from him in a couple of days (spotty cell service) but I know he is able to use his computer and get on Facebook. I thought about shooting him a quick message to say hi and let him know I was thinking about him. but I don’t want to come off as needy. do guys like to know they are missed, or am I coming off as clingy? we aren’t in a relationship, just dating/seeing each other
Shannon
I don’t see anything wrong with you shooting him a breezy text saying, “Happy Festivus, hope you’re having fun!” (not sure if it’s Festivus, but every day leading up to Christmas seems to be something, so I would use that to my advantage). I would advise you not to say “I miss you.” I don’t know why it is, but men seem to find that phrase really clingy and needy and whenever I have used that phrase in the past, it has always signaled the decline of the relationship and him entirely having the upper hand. I just wouldn’t say that. Sound stupid, but that’s been my experience.
Leigh
I agree with Shannon. Don’t directly say you miss him. Send him a txt that is flirtatious. Something like : I see you sitting in front of me right now”. “Where are you?”. With a winking mojoicon. (Whatever they are called).
Rose
I only say that if they say it first or if I don’t give a rat’s butt about the outcome.
I tell my guy friends who I used to date and they love it but guys I’m actually dating probably find it creepy specially if they don’t say it first.
Louise
I would say hey haven’t heard from you in ages, how have you been. Make a conversation through that on Facebook. See if he reciprocates.
Happy
It’s not about you missing him. This early in a relationship you want him to miss you!
A man can’t miss you when you are texting and keeping in touch. So I would not text unless he does.
He needs to be knowing you have a life outside of him and he should be missing and wondering about you.
Is he even your boyfriend? If not, than his question could have been one to probe how into him you are. Don’t fall for such things.
I know it’s tempting, but men don’t fall for you over words and texting, they do it by spending time with you. Let him alone. Give him space to miss you. It’s not what he says while you are apart. It’s what he does when he gets back and how much time he wants to spend with you then.
redcurleysue
I would leave him alone.
You have no business initiating at this stage. Let him work, let him lead.
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