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Maddy
Hello,
Ultimately the title of this topic says it all.
I know I’m guilty of playing texting games with guys, so are they, too?
More specifically, my guy texted me last night, and I didn’t respond until about an hour ago (so about 15 hours later) and in the meantime posted a snap story. He has, since my response, posted a snap story but not responded. Is he just mirroring me or possibly retaliating?
Any advice?Thanks,
Maddy
AshleyNo way of knowing but don’t play texting games, that’s seriously so immature. Especially when it has you wondering if he’s doing the same. Personally if someone took 15 hours to respond to me I wouldn’t be in a hurry to reply immediately.
RagsIf you play games there’s a bigger chance of losing! Its not worth it. Just be yourself
helenai definitely think guys play texting games. however, i don’t think they overthink things quite as much. they’ll notice a delay in response, etc. but overall, i don’t think they’re going to be sitting there glued to their phone. honestly, i hate playing texting games…i say that but find myself partaking in it, and it’s just so exhausting. i find that the moment you play texting games, is the moment you realize that you should be having more face to face interactions. texting ruins so many budding relationships even …so i suggest getting off your phone entirely – don’t play into that kind of stuff and just use texting as a means to set up dates/times/brief check ins. otherwise, it’s just a means for lazy communication. and trust me, i’ve had many almost relationships but ultimately, both of us played the texting game, and i put too much emphasis on the texting when in actuality it shouldn’t matter…. what REALLY matters is if the guy wants to see you or not. don’t use texting as your barometer for guy’s interest towards you. measure it by his actions. and if his actions show low interest level, MOVE ON. really, becasue if you withhold contact – the ones who contact you are ones who show interest and the ones who just never come back were never that into you to begin with. hope this helps!
MaddyI really hate doing it, too. I’m just really hoping to not seem too available.
AshleyPlaying games like that isn’t good & usually doesn’t work. Instead actually BE unavailable at times. For example cleaning your place, reading a book etc. An hour or 2 will do… Tons of hours later just looks rude, like the person is your last priority because unless you were asleep all those hours, they know you can take 10 seconds to reply. You can run the risk of the guy knowing you’re doing it on purpose which makes you look extremely insecure that you need to do tactics to try to maintain a guys interest. It’s best to strike a balance & not do things that are unauthentic.
redcurleysueGames do not fit with love.
Your life should be full to the point that you cannot answer text every single minute…better yet, tell you BF you do not like to text…you prefer calls instead. That will keep communication in a better flow…and make more sense.
PhillygirlChildren and babies play games.
To have a real connection and love you must respect yourself and in turn respect others.
When we play games we are already losing because we aren’t being authentic. Once you have to play games it destroys trust. Lack of trust destroys love and affection.
Make it simple. Don’t play games and don’t tolerate others who play games with you.
The golden rule applies : do unto others as you’d have them do unto you. Treat people with the love and respect you want. If they don’t treat you with the same care, say buh-bye and don’t look back
HannahThis is a waste of your brain power. You counted the hours between texts? You must have better things to do.
In my experience, women play games a lot more than men do.
GabbyI think only immature wishy washy guys would engage in texting game. My BF is a really mature, straightforward and lovely guy.. He has never played texting game since first day whether he’s courting me or he’s my BF now.
I did when he courted me on the early stage. I replied him slowly, but he’s always quick to reply. Only when he’s in a meeting or playing sports.. I knew his schedule well ;)
Lola15 hours????
Too long. Unless we’re planning something I usually wait 10-15 minutes. Of course guys “play games” – no one wants to be too eager. Also, guys aren’t usually tied to their phones.JadeNo they don’t. Men don’t overthink texting like we do, generally. They don’t keep track of how long it takes for us to respond in hours and minutes or how many snap chats they post before we respond.
CandyFlossWhat about getting to know each other typed games, like the whole ‘Would you rather’ and selfie war etc??
EmMaddy
“I know I’m guilty of playing texting games with guys, so are they, too?”
Yes.
Some men text aggressively just to see how you react. Others drag their feet a bit, so they don’t come off overeager. If I had a nickel for every time a man reached out met the three-day rule, on the dot, I’d be rich.
I would not assume this guy is playing texting games with you just because he hasn’t responded. He could just not like texting…I certainly don’t.
I agree with redcurleysue about getting friendly with your dial function. If you are so glued to your phone that you have time to strategize with it then you are missing out on something better.
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