Do I text him?

Usually a guy will be worried that you’ll get too attached because most women do get attached after regular sex. So it’s more likely he’s creating space and distance to make sure that doesn’t happen rather than he thinks you’re not interested enough. It is to spread out the encounters to keep feelings casual. I don’t think you need to clear anything up… you will either hear from him for another visit or you won’t. It won’t matter at the event as you’ll be just friendly to each other around other people, and if he wants to go home with you he’ll let you know. But since you’re not together, don’t worry about him when he’s not around. Most men would be happy to have a FWB so I expect you’ll hear from him again after some time has passed and he’ll still be interested in the arrangement. Just make sure you take your own space between encounters / reaching out to him too to stay detached from him.

Urghh I don’t know what to do. It was the first time last weekend so I don’t know if he wants to do it again or just leave it as friends. Neither of us broached this or mentioned it in our texts. I didn’t come off as flirty as usual.

I’m usually cool about this sort of stuff so I’m annoyed at myself for overanalysing this because he hasn’t replied or contacted me in a couple days.

Not sure whether to ask him if he wants an encore or just to stay friends and never do it again or just leave it until he contacts me.

Yes also worried about the friendship but it’s done now so we either move on and don’t go there again and continue as friends or I’ve lost a good friend.

I just want my friend back

Just wanted to give an update on this.

He text me apologise for not being in touch and making sure I was okay. He said he wanted to see me again soon and I mentioned what we should do. He said I want to continue this, we have fun and enjoyed ourselves but we’re friends too and I don’t want to lose that. So we decided we’d enjoy each other’s company and see how it goes.

Well we decided to officially date, it was unexpected that both of us wanted this, was not the plan at all but we enjoy each other’s company, are open and honest with each so I said yes to the date. We’ve had a few dates since and sit up until stupid o clock talking.

I don’t know if it will last, we’re still sorting through some of our previous relationship issues but we’re doing it together and taking each day as it comes. Totally different outcome from my original post 6 weeks ago but I’m happy and will just enjoy it, if it works out great, if not then I’ll cross that bridge.