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Maddie.
Ericey
Female couple here. Connected with a guy via online site. Chatted off and on for 2 months and we finally invited him to come see us 2 weeks ago. Had an amazing night of sex. All agreed that it was something we wanted to do again, possibly longer term FWB. He came back this past weekend. Arrived, we had dinner and then into the bedroom. Another fantastic time for all.
Laying in bed talking and just enjoying each others company, he gets a text on his watch. Suddenly very distracted. Goes to get his phone and basically ignores us. After questioning him, he says that his ex texted and had some harsh, but truthful, things to say to him. He chats with us about whats bothering him, but says that he just cant get out of his head and needs to go home and be alone. He swore it wasnt us, kissed us both good bye and left.
Other than to tell us he got home, we havent heard from him and we dont know what to do. Do we give him time to contact us? Do we message him to say we are still interested and then just let it be up to him? Help please
Alpharad
He is gone forever, sorry.
What did you have for dinner, though?
Ss
He is just a hook up isn’t he? What does it matter what’s up with him?? Why do you guys care?
Raven
If you’re going to the trouble of posting a fake story, please at least make it interesting…
Ericey
It is a true story. We care because the three of us had talked about making this a more than casual relationship. He wasn’t just a hook up.
Raven
You met twice… 2 times for sex-
That, a relationship does not make…
Maddie
Think of it this way… you just got fair warning from his last ex that he’s got a lot of issues. So this is probably the least complicated outcome for you two.
You can find someone else who fits the situation better and won’t complicate things and go silent after only two meetings. You don’t want his personal issues (with himself) to later on disrupt or bleed into your couple relationship, and these arrangements require a lot of transparency, honesty, and good communication to keep them healthy and fun for everyone. You can find another guy who is capable of those three things and is also a fun partner for you both in other ways.
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