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Dani
I posted the other day about a guy who I had been seeing for 6 weeks. We never had sex we spent quality time just trying to get to know each other. I am so confused because I feel like I am pretty good at reading people but him and I were progressing at a normal rate aside from no intimacy. After a month I thought it was weird for seeing each other 3x per week and never kissing. I didn’t see it is as a red flag until he told me he had feelings for someone he dated previously.
He was super attentive and wasn’t seeing anyone else or still talking to this person. He said he genuinely enjoyed my company but couldn’t start a new relationship while still having feelings for someone else.
Please give me all the pick me ups of why I should move on and also if anyone has experienced something like this. I still do care about him and hope he can move past his feelings for another woman. but I also feel kind of silly still being interested in someone who has feelings for another woman. I’m hurting y’all :(
Khadija
Do you want to be a rebound or someone’s second best?
He’s no the only man out there, get back out there.
Anne
My ex does this to girls. He keeps doing it actually. He and I have constant contact and cannot let each other go, he’s since tried to date 2 others & always ends it for this same reason. He won’t be meaning to hurt you, its just he has an emotional investment to another girl and thats not easy to let go of.
I think you should try to find someone emotionally available because this won’t end well.
hs
well at least he didn’t lead you on
i recently dated a man. he just got divorced, but having known that his ex was swinging etc for years. he stayed with her for the sake of children, and only got divorced after she chose to leave. he was completely indifferent to her, and when i asked if he doesn’t first want to date around (that’s what all his friends would advise him) he answered he loves me, he only wants me, he’s never been a player and that’s what he’ll tell his friends too
this man was all in. he saw me 2 – 3 times a week. told me he loved me. told the gate guard he’s my boyfriend etc. he was always displaying affection, like holding my hand and stroking my hair. and the sex was amazing! he really took care of me very well, and i thought i had met someone who’d be a part of my life for a very long time
about 3 months in i realized that even though we go out often, it’s always to places where no-one will recognize him. and when i started questioning this, as i don’t want to be anyone’s secret, everything fell apart and he just disappeared
he wasn’t married, he definately was divorced, it was simply a matter that he couldn’t admit to anyone that i’m a part of his life, what if the ex found out, etc
i was nothing to him. i didn’t even deserve a bye from him. i was just a rebound. the girl he screwed to get over getting screwed
take my word for it, it wasn’t fun. you don’t want to be in this situation. so be happy he didn’t use you, he was honest with you and let him go. who knows, maybe in time when he’s recovered from his feelings for her, he’ll be back
Dani
I stopped speaking to him but do think about him
Pretty often. I deleted his number so I cannot reach out to him anymore! But I just find it odd that he’s hung up on someone for this long that he was never in a relationship with. I do have feelings for him but if I meet another man I won’t have any problems moving forward with them. He’s also 41 so this is a really big flag if he’s this emotionally immature and chasing after a woman who doesn’t want to be with him. I am 27 and trying really hard to move on but I really do care for him!@Anne – why do you stay in constant contact with your ex if you are broken up? I unknowingly dated someone like this and ended up being cheated on. It was so bizarre they were both in new relationships but continued talking to each other. Why not just get back together?
Laura
Hello, I was dating my ex-boyfriend for 7 months and he broke up with me a month ago. Few weeks ago he woke up and the magic between us was lost. He told me, that he did´t know how to solve this situation because he never had relationship before. He told me that he still really cares about me, he wants me to be happy and those 6 months were the best but now he thinks it would be probably better to break up. Do you think he will possibly come back?
Laura
Hi, I dated my ex-boyfriend for almost 7 months and he broke up with me a month ago. Few weeks ago he woke up and the magic between us was lost. He told me, that he did´t know how to solve this situation because he never had relationship before. He told me that he still really cares about me, he wants me to be happy and those 6 months were the best but now he thinks it would be probably better to break up. Do you think he will possibly come back?
Khadija
Laura its best to make a new post, you’ll get more responses that way.
ANM StaffKeymasterYes indeed – what Khadija said. :)
I appreciate you sharing your questions with the community, Laura. Your question ended up on someone else’s thread. The community generally doesn’t respond to those because there can be confusion about which topic people are replying to. Please feel free to start a fresh new thread with your question. Thanks, best wishes!
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