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Fabby
Last week I (26f) texted my bf (33m) of 8 months I don’t want to see him bc I saw on Facebook he was flirting with his ex. (They were together 5 years. I didn’t mean for ever) All he replied with was so that’s it? And I said well yeah. I texted him back about something else and he’s not responding. THIS WAS OUR FIRST FIGHT. Will he ever talk to me again? Has anyone else gotten back with an ex that they broke up with? I don’t want to look too desperate.
I thought about it and I want him. I despise short relationships and getting into new ones. No relationship is perfect.
cupcake
You essentially broke up with him. So its up to you to make the next step and try to win him back. Like why would he contact you? You essentially told him to get lost.
BUT why in the WORLD would you want someone like that back? It sounds like he is trying to rekindle things with his ex. When you told him you don’t want to see him anymore he didn’t exactly put up a fight either. Not to be harsh but sounds like you are a rebound placeholder. No relationship is perfect sure, but girl please have a little more respect for yourself.
Zoe
He disrespected you. He should be begging for you to be back
Newbie
If you are sure he was flirting with his ex, then thats not a minor thing. Plus he wasnt keen on changing your mind when you told him. So i think you should be gld you wised up and broke up. Sorry you want to go to crazy town again now
Jayne
Getting back together with somebody who was flirting with an ex is a bad idea. Getting back with anyone because you “don’t like short relationships” and don’t like getting into new relationships is a very bad idea.
kaye
First of all you broke up OVER TEXT after 8 months! In my book that’s a pretty tacky thing to do and he at least was owed a conversation where he could you his side of the story before you just dumped him. You didn’t give him that respect and now he’s not responding to you.
It sounds to me like you overreacted and are now regretting your decision. Was what he said to her a big deal or not? I mean did he just tell her she looked pretty in a picture or was he saying he missed her and wished things were different? If the comments are public then I’m guessing you made a big deal out of something which he thought nothing about and are now realizing you overreacted.
You don’t really give a very good reason for wanting him back either. If he really is talking to his ex and wanting her back then why would you want a man who did that to you? You can try to call him and apologize but depending on what he said to her he might should be apologizing to you as some of the others said!!!
Raven
You broke up with him by text…
Fabby
First, thank you for your response. He was telling her she’s sexy and beautiful and hearting pics. I didn’t mean to break up with him, I meant that I didn’t want to physically see him (right now). This was after he’d asked me to hang out. (I also had previously told him I didn’t want to hang out because of covid, this was another reason). But he like twisted my words as if I was ending it.
K
Have you now learned that you should NEVER have sensitive discussions in text or email????
If I’d been on the receiving end of that text, I wouldn’t be speaking to the person sending it because 1) sounds like a permanent break-up 2) it’s a snotty way to talk to someone.
You may have done permanent damage and he might not want you back, you have to understand that. Call and leave a voice message and tell him you’re sorry, you didn’t mean to talk to him like that and you didn’t intend for a permanent break-up if you really want to push it. BUT… if he said those things to his ex, you have a bigger problem because it sounds like he isn’t over here. I wouldn’t want him back if I saw him saying those things in public to an ex.
K
I meant, “isn’t over her” not “isn’t over here.”
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