Does he fancy my sister??

Firstly relax. The more you think such thoughts, the more it will affect you and make you insecure. I am sure you are beautiful and I am sure the guy really likes you (Since he has met your family). What he said was reflective of the bond you and your sister share (I bet you’ll get along like best friends). So be secure, enjoy your time with your man and know you are beautiful! xoxo

“He’s never shown me any signs that he did/does.”

There is your answer. x

Why would you do that? It makes you look incredibly insecure. That’s the reality. is that your goal?

What exactly you hoping for? Because my guess is you have a very specific reaction you were hoping for. And that is, oh no honey you’re the most beautiful woman in the world. It is very unlikely that that is what is going to happen. Please be very careful about what you’re about to do especially when you know what your issue

If he is such a great guy and he has never given you a reason to think such a thing why are you going to ask him this?

This all sounds like your insecurites.

I’m sorry but asking such an outrageous question will do more harm than good. Take a step back and think what will this accomplish? What are you hoping to hear from him?

Why do you even need to ask him this?
You aren’t making any sense here at all.

I used to struggle with something similar when I was younger and I want to share something with you from scarleteen.com that helped me.

“Whether or not you’re going to believe me, I’ll be plain with you anyway.

Your lack of confidence and low self-esteem are ALWAYS going to be a WAY bigger impediment to “getting the attention,” and more importantly, to having great relationships with romantic partners AND friends…and most importantly, with yourself.

Most people worth your time notice confidence and solid self-esteem above and beyond all else. I say worth your time because, for sure, there are some shallow, surface-y people out and about in the world, people who view others as objects or conquests or trophies. For those people, how someone looks may well be all that matters, or the only real thing they notice, but trust me: you don’t want to be noticed by those people because they’ve got nada to offer you or a relationship, especially when you also consider that how we look changes over the years.

Someone only in it because a person looks one way isn’t someone who you’re likely to have a healthy, long-lasting relationship with.

There’s also little uglier than someone who just walks around coveting what other people have, having a pity party because they don’t see themselves as equals to others, and seething with jealousy. Really, you could have a zit that covered your whole face and it’s be more attractive than that stuff is. If you are being ignored by everyone around you when you’re with your friends, and are feeling the way you say you are, it’s likely showing right on your face and sending a clear signal to new people that you’re not a happy person with good esteem. When healthy people sense that, they do tend to turn the other way. Wouldn’t you?

Want to get noticed? Don’t be a sad sack when you’re out with your friends, or walk around feeling like some sort of ugly stepsister. Be the cool, dynamic individual you are, and don’t question that your worth is no more or less than theirs. Be warm to people, be friendly, and take interest in them. Enjoy yourself, and by all means, be sure you also get out without your same group of friends, too.

If you need some time to get your confidence up, and get over this insecurity about yourself with your friends, I’d suggest going out on your own now and then, too. You may be able to better learn how to accept yourself and feel good about you first without them right now and then bring it back when you’re with them. No matter what, it’s not sensible to suggest that your two choices are going out with one limited group, or staying locked in the house. You aren’t — or shouldn’t be — dependent on your friends to live your life and have social outlets.

If your esteem isn’t so great right now, one great way to amp it up AND get some new social activity is to do some volunteer work for a cause that’s important to you. Not only do you get to feel great about yourself for doing things that really benefit everyone, you also will meet other like-minded people, in a setting where you’re being competent, capable and kickass.

If and when you date, if you date a person of any kind of substance, what they’re going to be attracted to with you is your whole picture. What you look like is part of that, but only part, and you also have to understand that not everyone shares the same beauty standards. What’s “totally gorgeous” to you can be completely uninteresting to someone else. As well, the stronger our feelings grow for another person, the more little things we find about them that are attractive, stuff that has nothing to do with beauty standards, and everything to do with how we feel. My partner, for instance, loves my smile more than any other part of me, and part of why is that because when I am smiling with him, he knows I’m making him happy.

Certainly, most people find more than one person attractive. If your friends are cool, beautiful people, then a boyfriend might someday have a crush on one of them. So what? Being monogamous isn’t about no longer being attracted to anyone else: if it was, it wouldn’t be very meaningful. What makes it meaningful, when that’s what we choose, is that we or our partners are CHOOSING to be with one person — just because that one person is so freaking awesome — even though we COULD choose to be with others or find others attractive. Certainly, it can be hard for people to accept sometimes that their partner is attracted to anyone else but them, but that’s reality, and there’s nothing anyone can do to somehow make someone only be attracted to us. Even if we could, what would the real benefits be? Ultimately, it’d just mean someone was settling for us because they had no other choices. That’s not very exciting or meaningful. “

* above article was wrote in response to someone who felt that her friends were prettier than her and got all attention from boys

I haven’t asked him but I am going to try and figure out myself whether he does or not!

I have a baby due in 7 weeks so my hormones are all over the place which isn’t helping,I don’t mind him finding other girls attractive that’s not the issue.its whether he fancies her and thinks she’s prettier than me

Rach,

Do what you want. This is a lesson you need to learn on your own, and you will end up with no man over it. Best of luck…

What does it matter if he does? Will you pass him onto her, will you dump him, will this just feed your story that does not help?

Is your boyfriend of 4 months the father of your soon to be baby? Sounds like more to the story.

No it’s not my babies dad,the babies dad left me at 7 weeks into the pregnancy,the guy I am with now is amazing,.i have known him 10 years