Does he feel obligated to text me?

What is your question?

He has kept in touch with you. Stop making issues where there are none.

Measure a man’s interest by how much time he spends with you… Not by how much he texts you. I have seen men text constantly and never ask a woman one date. Can’t you wait to ‘talk’ when spending time together? What is so important you have to text?

Not being mean but women really need to stop the fussing about text messages. It is a waste of your head space. Men are not chatty little women. Sure they text a lot in the beginning to get your attention. But non stop and constant texting is it sustainable. Men bond through being with you, not texting you.

Hi Jules,
You have NOTHING to worry about! The fact that he is staying in touch AT ALL means a lot (even if he wasn’t I wouldn’t say to worry). Let him enjoy his time away and enjoy your quiet time/time with family. When he gets back you two will have much more to talk about than if you discussed everything over text.
Don’t make issues where there aren’t any – just tell him have a great day! when he texts next and trust he will be in touch to schedule time together when you return – time is better than any texts.

If you had read my post you would have seen my question (or read the headline).

I’m not looking for him to blow up my phone with texts. I’m wondering if it seems like he’s doing it for my benefit and doesn’t actually want to. I’m fine with less texting. If anything I’d rather he not text if he doesn’t have anything to say.

You’re response was unwarranted. I’m not fussing over him not texting enough.

No, a man doesn’t text unless he wants to. He’s letting you know he’s thinking of you and hasn’t disappeared.

I think her complaint Lane, is that she is thinking his texting remarks are superficial, and therefore he is just going through the motions.

It’s a situation where men can’t keep women happy.. If they text something, it’s not Interesting enough. If they don’t text, they don’t ‘care’…

Im sorry to sound mean, but this is a perfect example once again about why men think women are crazy or unappreciative. Just saying… If nothing else we could all learn from this exchange.

I like what waitwhat said.

Jules, seriously?

You are fretting over texts? There must be something else going on here… Because that seems way too minor to be starting a thread and getting uptight over. Don’t tell a man NOT to text you if he doesn’t want to! He’s a man. He can decide what he wants to do. That’s really controlling and pointless. All it does is align with your expectations or lack of, and puts him in a situation of wondering if he should text or not.

You didn’t like my advice because it wasn’t focused on you being patient or the fact that he was thinking of you.

I focused on the real issue which is why you are so upset about superficial text messages. That is the real issue and I beleive you know it. Otherwise you wouldn’t get so upset or suggest telling him not to bother texting.

I’m not being rude, I’m identifying another area for you to consider.. Because from what you write, I don’t beleive this is just about texting. It’s your insecurity about the content and about the fact that you don’t trust him to reach out. Because he wants to. So to quell that fear you would rather tell him not to ‘bother’ so that you control in your mind why he really isn’t texting much.. But it doesn’t really take away the original issue you have about questioning the integrity and sincerity of his texting.

Sometimes it helps to understand the root cause of why you act or feel a certain way.. And not just be given advice on what to do or not to do. Sure you can follow directions, but it doesn’t help the root issue that will raise its head again in a different scenario.

I was actually trying to be helpful..

I agree with Melissa. He knows he doesn’t HAVE to text you if he doesn’t want to. But he wants to.

It sounds like you’re annoyed that he’s texting so much about “unnecessary” things – is that the case? Maybe you two just have different views on texting in general. He thinks it’s important to say hi and check in, while you think texting is just for the essentials (like making plans). I’d say, if it’s not bothering you that much, just let it go. If he didn’t truly want to text you, he wouldn’t.

To WaitWhat – this made me laugh! “But hey, I knew what they were buying at the grocery store, how long the line at the DMV was, and what they were having for dinner (without me).” It is so annoying when a guy texts constantly but doesn’t ask for a date! That’s a wonderful illustration of this phenomenon.

hi, he’s txting you because he thinks about you and he wants you to know he’s still there

as other girls said, just appreciate the gesture

all the best :)

I get your concern Jules, I really do.

I think for now, I would just let it alone until he just completely stops texting you altogether. But I think his texting conversations just seems like he feels comfortable in texting whatever is on his mind and wanting to just tell you that. It’s also great that he’s even texting you period, while on vacation. I don’t see any red flags in his behavior.