Does he have feelings for me? Do I tell him I have feelings for him?

I’m going to be straight with you. Unless you’re both extremely young, like teenagers or early 20s, then the only people who have long term off and on and off and on relationships tend to be incredibly insecure or emotionally immature or both.

It doesn’t matter what things feel like, he has told you he’s not your boyfriend. Listen to him, he’s telling you the truth. Mismatch between words and actions = inconsistency and no real commitment. Inconsistency in general is one of the biggest red flags in dating that there is. Don’t be fooled into putting up with it. If you allow it, some men can act like your boyfriend, because they enjoy the girlfriend experience and benefits and attention and validation and ego strokes you give them, without ever seeing things moving towards a real relationship.

From your description, he’s being a total selfish jerk to you and to his girlfriend. At best, has a fearful avoidant attachment style. This means he’s only comfortable getting close but not too close. It feels best for him if he can have his cake and eat it too: be physically intimate with one woman and emotionally intimate with another so that he’s always got one foot out with everyone and doesn’t need to feel scared of being all in with any one person and getting hurt if things go south with that one person. Do yourself a favor and move on from him romantically before you’re collateral damage for his own issues and the careless way he handles them! If he ever commit to you, it would be only temporary and he’d still not give you his all, and it would keep being painful for you. That has nothing to do with you or your value or being chosen, or even him having or not having feelings. It’s just his pattern and what he wants and is capable of unless he decides to grow up one day (takes a long time with lots of self work and usually therapy). That’s a big if, so cut your losses and have some self-respect instead by closing the door on him romantically. And ask yourself why you want to date someone emotionally unavailable who can’t commit to you instead of someone who gives you a hell yes and their full attention. Don’t you deserve better than scraps on the side?

He’s on & off with his toxic (ex) girlfriend. He’s texting you all day & has plans with you, not his GF… How absolutely charming of him (sarcasm).

You know if you continue seeing this cheeter, he’ll do the same thing to you, right?

This is a you problem. Never ever stay friends with someone who was not your friend before and has dumped you. Never. Those people get a goodbye. You are confused because you are letting yourself get confused by someone who was very clear they were choosing someone else.