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Isi
Hi! It´s kind of a long story, I will do my best to make it short.
There is this guy that I met when I was 16 (now I´m 22), because I used to hang out with frieds we had in common, he always kind of captured my atention, but there where a lot of thing that I did not find at all atractive in him, he´s kind of very direct, and sometimes he says things that are kind of rude (not to me, but in general). I think he kind of liked me in those days, but Im not sure. The thing is, that I stopped hanging out with this friends, so I stoped seeing him too.
So, About 3 weeks ago, he talks to me in FB, wanting to know if I had some party or somthing in the night. I was really confused, we had´nt seen eachother in 6 years (and I didnt have the best impression of him), but I thought I had nothing to lose, so I invited him to this thing I had, in the house of a friend, we were like 8 people. Since then we have gone out like 3 times, always with friends so it´s nothing romantic really, and I´ve had a good time, he is really funny, and really smart, so that is atractive to me. But last weekend I had a little gathering in my house, and I invited him, but he coulnt come because he had a party at his best friends house, which I totally understand.
The thing that has me a little confused is that, that night he called me at 5 a.m, i believe drunk, though he talked to me pretty normal, and then he send me an audio in whatsapp, singigng me a song that was kind of romantic.
So, I´m not really into guys calling me drunk, I think that if he really liked me he wouldnt do that kind of stuff, but I asked my grilfriends and they tell me that he was thinking of me, so that´s good, and well, he invited me to a party this Friday, I think Ill go, but I don´t really get what this guy wants!! does he like me? or maybe he´s just bored?(he broke up with his girlfriend like 3 or 4 month ago, they lasted 1 1/2 years)
(P.S: I´m not really looking for a serious thing, because Im going to study abroad next semester, so I wont be in my country for at least 6 months)
I hope someone can give me some insight!
Lane
Honestly, based on his ACTIONS he likes you as a friend at this point. A guy who has gone through a recent breakup is either looking for a rebound (to get over one get under another) or a companion (FWB), but nothing real or meaningful.
I would be very cautious with him and keep it NEUTRAL (friendship only) until you know for sure where his minds at. If you were to ask I bet 10 to 1 he would answer “I’m not looking for a relationship right now” which in guy speaks means “I don’t want to have a relationship with you.”
Men are action orientated so if he’s not calling to schedule real dates, not friend/ group parties, then he’s not interested in pursuing you and has put you in the “friend zone”. One thing you need to also understand about men is their able to “categorize” women pretty fast and put them in a box, e.g., platonic friend, sex buddy/FWB, potential GF/wife, etc.
If a guy acts friendly you’re a friend; if he acts in a sexual manner you’re a sex buddy/FWB; if he takes you out on dates w/o sexual overtones then you’re a potential GF–I say “potential” because I guy doesn’t usually know how he feels about a lady until he’s created awesome memories with her as this is how men bond—not sex or text.
Ali
He’s just your friend until he states that he wants to take you out on a date. Doesn’t sound like he’s flirting much and drunk dials don’t mean much in my book. He was drunk, alone, you’re a girl, he probably can’t call his ex anymore, you had recently texted him so he saw your name, and decided to call you. Try not to overthink it and just hang out!
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