Does he still have feelings for me? Should i stop hoping and just let go?

I am in the same boat…im so confused. I have been talking and texting my guy friend for three years…we dated for a year and a half. We called it off but remained friends continuing to talk and text. he assured me he will always be there for me..we will always keep in touch and that we may come together again some day. Well I told him that I was leaving the state. he got a little upset with me and I don’t know why… when we first split up I was good but staying in touch with him made keep the feelings that I had and more..since I told him I was leaving he text me and said that it don’t make since with me leaving and all. I wanted him to say I love you please don’t go but he only said I am gonna miss you… and I haven’t heard form him since but two times…on top of that when I did talk to him he had such an attitude with me. So I told him I was sorry for calling him and that I would not bother him anymore…he says I don’t know what you are trying to say.. and he said have a nice life…I found out that I truly love him and I wasn’t even trying…he was one of the nicest guys ever came my way..If he don’t care nothing for me how come he changed on me…please help me! I don’t have any tears left…what do I do?

Conner taylor, have he contact you again? since you said he has this attitude towards you, maybe he just had ia bad day, or something is bothering him too. Try to understand him. And maybe give him some space, so try not to contct him. Let him contact you. If he truely cares, he will..

Hi Ladies.

The thing with men is they aren’t in touch with their feelings like we are because of how their brains are wired—they really are from MARS and we are from Venus!

Sometimes they hold back because of fear, intensity, curiosity, or a number of reasons they aren’t able to or won’t tell you. Dating today is much more trickier than before because MEN have found a way to get all the advantages of a GF without having to commit to one! When a lady gives them ALL their attention before a man commits to her, the she’s putting herself in a very weak position.

Its the LADIES JOB to get a man to feel comfortable enough to open up to her, but if they aren’t continually asking you probing questions on each date “what are your goals?”, “how many kids do you want to have?”, “when do you think of marriage?” then you’re wasting your time on someone who isn’t seeing a potential future with you, especially if they aren’t returning their answer to you so YOU can decide if he’s someone you want to waste anymore time with.

Dating is about making sure the guy’s intentions for you are true and honest which he does by spending time with you finding out you’re likes, dislikes, qualities, traits, present, future, life goals, etc. and if he sees a good fit he will commit so the BOTH of you can start the journey of working towards them together.

Bottom line, do not ACT like a GF until you are one, which is WHY you shouldn’t be so available because your too busy dating others so you can properly CHOSE the right guy who’s on the same page as you are. Thrust me, when you find that guy there are NO mixed signals, questions or confusion—if you have them, then he’s not on the same track you are.

Hi lane! Thanks for sharing your lovely story (me jealous! Hehe:) ) and thanks for the advise too, i do need that. This guy i have dated was the one who initiate all the moves, he actually put so much efforts back then, even my mom sisters like him. Im not actually the clingy type of girl wen wer still dating, he has his own time, i have my own time (i said on my 1st post we see other evryday b4, yes its true, but i didnt say it was 27/4, mostly he would just dropby my place just to have lunch or dinner, its either he brings food, or i cook, we’ll then back to own things, we only go out during weekends). our dating days was almost perfect.. But, One day we argue about something and me unconciously lead to this question, when i asked him, he said hes wasnt ready, doesnt want commitment n saying this freedom to explore stuff, thats y we stopped. I myself know im not a needy type of person, i do have my own life, im enjoying it actually, but i cant deny when i saw him last week my feelings for him is still there, little part of me still wants him. And his gestures towards me was like when wer still dating.
But now, it make more sense to me, cause he havent msg me for 4 days now, maybe he is just playng mind games, if he still have feelings for me n want me, he should have told me. I should stop this false hope, and not let him take control.

Yes, I absolutely agree that you should focus on your exam right now.

Next time don’t allow one guy to consume all your time. Go out with others too because a man needs to FEAR losing you to another man—its a deeply embedded innate thing men have.

Good luck and hope you pass it :-)

I think that if you think this guy is the one & he may still have feelings for you then don’t give up hope. But like lane said don’t start acting like you two are back together. Focues on yourself, spend time with friend, see other guys.