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AndreaP
Hi,
So i’ve been workin’ for this company for 2 years. And i’m not sure if my boss, he’s 42 and i’m 28 has a crush on me or some kind of feelings for me. He knows i have a boyfriend but he lives in another country.
In the beginning he would ask me out for work lunch, i would always avoide it, so he stopped asking. I had to relocate to another apartment and he offered me to sleep at his apartment? I later found out that he had broken up with his girlfriend of 3 years. I was curious why he asked me that.
He raised my sallary since i was unhappy with getting to little paid, and he agreed i was getting to little paid, even to this day my salary is not the greatest, but better.
Also we text alot outside of work, let’s say when im home or not working, its mostly work related topics and costumers, but he always replys quickly.
We are not friends on social media, lets say facebook, he has never tried to add me, neither have i tried to add him.
I’m not sure what is going on here… but this week he sent me info about him traveling and his flights – so i can plan my schedule or something. We have another girl at the office, she’s pretty new still, but i don’t find he’s this way towards her. He also told me i’m very loyal to the company and i’m the only one he can trust.
Help!!!!
Emma
Maybe. If you are a sexy young woman, and he is 42, then why are you surprised he has a crush on you? If he going to take it further? not if he has any brains. LOL. And you should not provoke him. Do not give out any signs, any signals, neutral body language, conservative clothing. things like that happen all the time at work, people work together, it is natural to form bonds, attraction etc. But you don’t take it any further and with time the flame dies out and you become good friends. It happened to me several times and those guys are now my very good friends.
Z
He also told me i’m very loyal to the company and i’m the only one he can trust.
Gearing you up for a promotion? You text about work maybe he’s testing your knowledge?
He sees you are a hard worker.
I read an article recently about people over 40 I think it was are lonely. It’s probably not sexual at all but he’s a guy so he may have thought about it once or twice. If you’ve kept it strictly professional he’s taken the hint a guy at 42 can not be that dense. He’s quick to respond to texts because his life is work then home then some random activity he’s into.
The other side of the coin is he’s looking for a rebound because of his relationship ending…but he’s your boss it’s sexual harassment and he would be dumb to ruin his career over it.
redcurleysue
Since he has not suggested anything completely like open dating I would just be polite and kind to him. He might just need a new GF (not you) in his life.
Just keep a professional distance….not too chummy. In time he may get over it when he gets a new woman in his real life.
Lauren
If you have to ask if a man likes you, the answer is “no.” If he likes you a little but not enough to ask you out, the answer is still no.
AndreaP
Thanks girls,
I was looking for an apartment and had no where to stay, and he said, you can sleep at my place, that made me start to think about him in a different way :/
tutu
He’s just being nice because he knows you need a place so he offers since he has a spare room and it’s kind of lonely because he’s just broke up with his girlfriend. It’s up to you to take the offer or not.
Please be professional. What happens happens.
Estelle
I am facing something similar to you. Tbh, i am also thinking if my boss likes me as well. The difference is that my boss is married.
Sometimes during work discussions, you get the occasional brushes and we linger longer than normal for work discussions.
But if the guy is smart, he shouldnt make a move as this will end both yours and his career.
Then again, its not often to have gentlemen these days. We may mistaken their kindness and politeness as something else.
tcw
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