Does not initiate contact anymore

Get so busy with your life that you barely notice how many days it’s been that he called or didn’t call. Yes, you had 3 dates and you are interested in him, attracted, but it’s so so early, so it’s best to be hopefully optimistic but realistic that you two barely know each other so try not to be so attached to the outcome of this.

And yes, I’d just say think nothing of it and if he calls he calls and if he doesn’t so be it too.

Sweetie, always hold steady after a 3rd date. In fact, do not contact at all after a 3rd date.

So, stop contacting him. More importantly, do not ask him why he has not contacted you. He is not your boyfriend and does not owe you any justification of where he has been or not been.

Just wait patiently and keep on keeping on…….

I recently had a guy say that he will message me the next day to set up something on that day and he never called. I chalked it up to him changing his mind and not wanting to meet. When he contacted me the next day, I asked him what had happened and he told me that he was not feeling well and just went to sleep.

I then told him that I hoped he felt better but that I was looking for consistency in a guy (someone who will do what he says he will), and it didn’t take much to just send me a text saying that “not feeling too good, wont be possible today”. That I am looking for someone who respects my time. And while I was not waiting by the phone for his message all day, I was totally not impressed by him.

He came back apologising profusely. And asked to give him another chance. Since then he has always done what he said he would do.

That being said, its no big deal if a guy doesn’t contact you everyday. It is really not a requirement. In fact some of the ladies here have a formula

Many dates = High level of interest
Low number of dates = Low level of interest

Texting all the time removes the mystery and makes him not want to meet you as he already knows everything that he needs to know via text.

Hi Everyone, I wanted to followup. I thank each of you for sharing your knowledge with me. I totally jumped the gun by posting here and clearly see that now. When I mentioned the couple of days it all makes complete sense. Day one was really a day of rest for him and given the type of week he had I believe him. Day two was a weird day where he lost his phone. Shortly after I posted this message he showed up in person with new phone in hand and explained that he only had my number stored in his phone and had no other way to contact me than to show up. I am totally in tune with my feelings and definitely not clingy, it just felt weird at that time. Thanks everyone!