Don't know how to react.

I don’t know, I don’t think it would be such a horrible thing to send one last message. Your 1) sounds fine to me, but I would delete the last paragraph (about you hoping he’s well). Then block him – or even not, but move on. You could also block him without sending anything. In any case, just be sure that your attitude is ‘it’s over, this is the last message, after which we never have to speak again’ (and not that you desperately try to provoke some reaction). And keep in mind that possibly, he will not reply. Anyway, I liked this first part of 1). You are right to be disappointed, he is, at the very least, just rude. Realising this should help you with moving on… You;re not going to cry a river over some jerk, are you.

Sho, honey. Please don’t feed the idea of sending this man a text. It’s like sending a text to a man two days after he stood you up and saying ‘I guess you aren’t showing up for our date?’

It took six whole pages but we saved another one!

Or you can just say that you had fun getting to know him and wish him luck in the future. I don’t unburry the dead. Once I send a text like that, I’m done. If they come back months later, I’m still done. It’s not easy, but a week of no contact after 4 months should make you want better for yourself. There is nothing wrong in asking in a non needy way, there is also nothing wrong with staying silent.

@Dallas – I guess I say that because he was the one who rejected me.

@Elena – I agree. I am free to text or not if I want to. I just feel what’s the point now? It has been over a week since his last text to me. I have sent him two texts. None of which required a response but that never mattered before. If he wanted to talk to me, he has my number. I feel he probably knows I know something is up by his silence and I finally got the hint. Good for him, I guess.

Why are you so fixated on the amount of pages this is? Is there a thread limit I am not aware of? Are you being charged a fee for your responses? You don’t have to respond if it bothers you so much.

What have I done to you? Why are you being so mean to me?

There really is no point. This really seems to be bothering you. I almost always give a week. If it’s been a week with nothing, I’ll send the text to have my own closure. That’s the point. You take your power back, unless you are worried that he won’t come back if you do. Then that’s something you will have to work on. It can be your decision that disappearing fir a week is not acceptable to you.

To be honest, no one that has genuine intent is too busy for someone they are truly interested in. And, too much texting with someone you don’t already have an established friendship, etc. with can be a problem. I see so many people chasing their tail in too many situations that involve a lot of endless texting as the main point of communication when they are not face to face.

The vacation may possibly include someone else or he preoccupied on whomever else he is pursuing. I would not put all of my attention in him and I’d shy away from being so responsive to him. Texting is like bait to many of those that use it as a main point of communication and you can never really get to know someone that way.

no, you should not feel bad. Maybe he made vacation plans last minute to help hm relax.

Thanks, B. I have had a tough few days but the tears are not as frequent now.

I am not going to reach out. I have written a lot here and on paper and it does help.

I would like to think that he may someday wonder where I am. But right now, I don’t think I am even a faint blip on his radar.

Then I would truly ask yourself, why would you ever ever wanna be with someone who has so little regard for you? It’s not good enough. Like others have said and you have acknowledged….take to build up your self esteem. Work on yourself. He is not the key. Once you build up your confidence and work through any issues, a whole other world will open up.

And Deena you will feel better eventually. Keep that in mind. Good luck.