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Janell
I was dating this guy for almost 3 months. It was amazing time together we’d hang out every week, he was a gentleman, pretty much everything I could ask for. When we started dating he wanted to move really fast, even asked me to be his gf on our 3rd date in which I said I wanted to take our time and really get to know eachother. He was so interested and really put in the effort for me to know he was serious. He even delete his dating app in front of me. As our time progressed I started to fall for him more and more and eventually became monogomous. We werent official because I still wanted to keep dating before actually getting serious. He even went all out for me for Valentines day. A few days later he was telling me how i mean the world to him and that hes so happy im his. Five days after Valentines day he sends me this long message saying that he really enjoyed his time with me these past couple of weeks but he is just not ready for a relationship and that he is just not fully invested in this. What was the point of all that Valentines day stuff wasting time, money, energy on something youre not fully invested in.. I asked him to explain what happened because i am confused. He says that we dont have the same interests and values?? If that were true we wouldn’t have dated for 3 months and he wouldnt have asked me to be his gf on date 3. But i digress..
Anyway, im about 3 1/2 weeks into no contact and I’ve been doing so good focusing on myself, barely thinking about him. We havent spoken since and he sends me a random dumb picture on snapchat that he found funny. I just read it and didnt respond. Next thing I know I am blocked on all of his social media.
Anyone have a clue why he would do that?
Emcee
You dodged a bullet! He sounds immature!
Good on you, just continue to ignore him and you’ll forget him fast!Kathy
This is not someone you would want to get seriously involved with. He either has serious issues, is seriously immature and has no idea what he doing in the dating realm.
This man shouldn’t be dating all! A serious dating fatality..
He’s a car wreck AND a train wreck!
K
He was trying to get a reaction from you to see if you were still on the line. He found out you weren’t. Game over. Good girl. He would have come back and messed with your head some more.
You were wise to slow the pace because he wasn’t ever for real. No one who is burns that hot and then goes so stone cold overnight. Player. He’s probably on to the next one and that’s why all of a sudden you got dumped. You aren’t missing anything. You handled this exactly right.
Lane
Its called “infatuation” and you have to move beyond that stage to determine if a man is really all in or not. Infatuation can FEEL like love but its not which is why you need to get to the six month mark and you’re still going strong to determine which one it is.
I’m going to tell you something my brother-in-law told me. He said women think a man romancing her is indicative of his feelings, its not—its whether he wants to keep F’ing you! If he only wants to F you and no one else, he’ll stay, if not, he won’t. It doesn’t even matter if you’ve F’d him or not and that’s the kicker haha!
Andrea
Sounds like he tried his luck with someone else and it didn’t work out, so he circled back around to you. Not responding was the right thing to do. Move on.
Hanna
Yes I agree. He was not serious with you…
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