Dumped by FWB and heart broken

How exactly did you expect this to end?? It WAS going to end sooner or later.

You dumped him last year then you agreed to FWB. So to him this was clear, cut and dried. No future, ever. Temporary, mutually agreed upon fun until one of you found someone else. So I”m not sure why you’re so bent out of shape and annoyed with him and so hurt. Giving you stuff on Valentine’s Day wasn’t that big of a deal, I don’t see any huge mixed signals here. He never said, would you consider being in a relationship with me again. He did a few nice things that women often mistake as a sign of real interest that are unfortunately nothing more than nice gestures in the moment.

When a guy meets someone he thinks is the right woman, things move fast. You had mutually agreed you weren’t right for each other in a relationship and once again, YOU called it off. I think you’ve just got a case of you want what you can’t have, which is a normal human reaction to having something you’re used to having around removed at short notice.

If you want to heal from this faster, stop finding reasons to be angry at him, accept that you 100% signed up for a clear cut deal, wish him well and move on, and know you can’t get into a situation like this again.

FWB is not a committed relationship. Both parties can leave or simultaneously sleep with others.

There is always a risk one or both will become emotionally attached. Unless the man wants exclusivity with you he can walk at any time.

Your expectations of him were unrealistic in this case.

You must walk away from this with your head held high, knowing this was painful but also a valuable learning experience.

The heart wants what it wants, logic has no say. I went through the same painful experience. Months of hanging on, analyzing everything night and day. This man did not want me enough. I willingly went along with FWB but in my heart I wanted him to love me like I loved him.

In the end I was too discarded like trash. All my time and effort was fun, exciting and an adrenaline rush for sure. Secretly, I had expectations that I never discussed with him.

One day I found out he started seeing someone else a month prior. Not one word to me, nada. My heart died. It’s been months now and I feel normal again.

I will never be the same. I’ve changed, I’ve grown, I have standards. I wish him well, it wasn’t his fault. It was me living in fantasy land.