Dumper contacting dumpee

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October 11, 2016 at 4:53 pm #570224 Reply

Elizabeth

I’m just wondering from everyone’s personal experience, have you been the dumper and have contacted your ex simply just because? From my experience I’ve broken up with a few people and have never felt it necessary to contact them again, even if I was thinking of them. Maybe once to make sure they were okay but that just seemed cruel to do to them. I have an ex now who has been texting me occasionally but never saying they want to get back together or be friends, so I find it odd. There’s no hard feelings, I just don’t see the point in doing so. What is everyone’s take on being the dumper and texting the dumpee? Why bother doing it if you don’t want something out of it?

October 11, 2016 at 4:57 pm #570227 Reply

Shelley

Why dumper contacts dumpee by text:

1) Guilt
2) Not sure they made the right decision, testing the waters to see if they are still there
3) Interested in FWB
4) Wants to be friends
5) Bored and looking for ego boost
6) Drunk
7) Too afraid to call and be rejected directly

October 11, 2016 at 4:58 pm #570228 Reply

Khadija

Are you responding back to him?
If you think it is pointless, which I agree then don’t respond. After a while he will get the hint.
I’m all about people going their separate ways for good after a relationship has ended. Time to heal and one day find someone better.

October 11, 2016 at 5:03 pm #570230 Reply

Phillygirl

I broke up with my serious BF at the end of last year.

He wanted us to stay in touch, but I thought it was a bad idea, and would be hurtful to both of us.

He is still one of my FB friends, as it seemed cruel to completely cut him off. He likes a lot of my posts and reaches out every so often. I keep it very short.

I don’t want to give false hope.

I will always care about him and still love him, (he’s a great guy in so many ways) but he has boundary issues with his ex wife that I refuse to tolerate. So I felt it best to walk away, since we had been talking marriage and me moving.

I care too much about him to cause him uneccesary pain or get his hopes up.
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