Even though he rejected me TWICE he acts jealous

He doesn’t know what he wants until he loses it. Maybe it’s abandonment issue. It’s a FWB thing yet he feels *somewhat* of some kind a way. He’s not as heartless as he would like to be. Or, as I’ve said before, never had a brother or son, so maybe I really don’t understand men that well. You could turn this around if you really want a relationship. But if you like the way things are,,don’t tell him about your other hookups. Either way, don’t tell him about those because he will resent you because if he’s smart he will think you are trying to manipulate him.

Meaning I felt foolish for telling him and him thinking I was just trying to make him jealous to get my way when he was obviously playing the field and I had the audacity to think I was special to him so early on. Maybe you didn’t feel foolish, but point is it ultimately is a bad thing to directly tell him about your other dates. I’m just sayin…

Omg, I would love to hear some more responses on this. I posted a very similar story a few days ago titled “A Blatant Act of E-tethering” but I can’t help but think it’s more complex than that. I have a great FWB who I actually like deep down and I thought he rejected me but he claims he didnt and has feelings for me, yet isnt ready for a relationship etc, so I said fine no problem and went to go commit to someone else, and he flipped out. Didn’t like that at ALL. I would just love to know what’s going on under there because he is as macho-stoic-gameface as they come

And–the only reason I mentioned it might be our last time was that we were having trouble scheduling it, he got stuck at work, I had to arrange a sitter in advance, etc, so as we were rescheduling, I mentioned that just in the context of–make sure you get back to me soon, this needs to happen in the near future. Didn’t realize he would get suspicious until I got his response. For all he knows I could’ve been moving or something. Or hey, I couldve been walking away due to my previous apparent rejection!

jj I have moved on and OP I highly advise you to do the same.

I was just curious because I find it that hard to believe a grown man can be that selfish and immature. But maybe joke’s on me, then :)

L, I agree with you. There is something there, some feelings for you. I don’t believe men are so mechanical and robotic. They are just spoiled and kind of lazy when they find good hook up situations. If I had several desirable guys all wanting me, I’d probably have a hard time choosing just one. Problem is I don’t and never did have more than one guy at a time that I was attracted to enough to have sex with concurrently. The pickins are slim. That was my Scarlette O hara reference to the scene where she was surrounded by suitors. And she was a bit of an *a* hole too. Men are not as selective when it comes to who they are willing to have sex with, therefore they have more “options.” That does not mean all of their options are equal. They do have favorites. And I have gotten a take from a gay guy who said a man does not stick around for 2 years (in my case at the time) if there is nothing there. Men lose interest in even the sex if they develop no attachment at all . It is a continuum, and not black and white. Believing in absolutes makes us feel more secure because we protect ourselves from being hurt, and that’s ok. But it is not the whole exact truth in my opinion.

I want a FWB to be my BF because I get something from him based on my experience that you don’t get from a man who really *loves* you as I understand men do not express their love for you through sex, which makes no sense to me. Because the freedom seems to make the sex better, that’s why I think men who separate the two and are good lovers have a screw loose.

He was being territorial which is normal for guys. Don’t look into his jealousy as anything more than that, instead remember how he doesn’t want to be with you, it will make everything simple. :) he’s a waste of time