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Maddie.
Sana
So my bf cheated on me. Then tried his best to get back with me. I wasn’t reciprocating and then when I did start acknowledging his efforts, it was too late. He is deep into drinking now and doesn’t wanna be with anyone. What can I do to make him think about is again?
Raven
Why do you want to be with a cheeting drunk?!
A
You’re kidding right? Go to therapy.
Sana
No I am not kidding. We have history. He has never left me for anyone. He has helped me a lot in big out of the ordinary ways. I have a huge history and huge emotional connection with him. I feel incomplete without him and also feel terribly guilty when I think of cutting him off.
Khadija
What relationship do you think you’ll have with a cheating drunk?
If he makes you feel complete you should seek therapy, a partner can’t complete you.
mama
I don’t think anyone in this forum is going to give you advice on how to get him back. I do encourage you to take some time for yourself, maybe with some professional guidance to walk you through the other side of your heartache. You are coming across desperate and irrational. I hope you are able to pull yourself out of it.
Sana
But I have read articles where people get back together after an episode of infidelity and emerge stronger from there. No advice on that front?
Maddie
Did those articles explain the enormous amount of personal growth and work that happened to get to that result? It doesn’t happen magically or overnight. And anyone numbing themselves in a bottle is doing the opposite of confronting their issues and becoming a better partner. You should look into al-anon or Codependents Anonymous if this is a genuine post. Along with therapy to explore why taking back a cheater once he’s stopped trying to win you back is normalized enough for you that it’s your instinctual response to this.
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