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Kayla
Hey everyone,
Just a little background information. My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago because we both needed space. I don’t think either of us knew what we wanted at the moment and I knew I was confused and unhappy (not because of him, reasons relating to myself). He mentioned getting back together in maybe a month or when I finished with my degree next year because people get back together all the time and things work out. But he also said he didn’t expect me to wait for that to happen.
I didn’t talk to him at all during the 6 weeks following other than setting up a time to meet to return each others stuff. For those first few weeks I truly took my space and time to think and work out where my problem was coming from. Just in the last few days though I got in touch with him to see how he was and if he wanted to meet up to chat sometime. (No I did not come right out and ask to meet, we talked a bit first). He agreed, but we didn’t set a date and I told him to get back to me when he wasn’t busy.
My thought was to kind of push the ball into his court and let him know I was ready to see him if he was ready to see me. But should I have given him that option? Should I have pushed for a date or was I right to leave it up to him? What do I do a week from now if I still haven’t heard anything?
Miss_Aspiring
The ball is already in his court: “I told him to get back to me when he wasn’t busy.” Don’t contact him again at this point. Let him contact you if/when he wants to meet.
Also, I advise taking more time to work on your own happiness and confidence before getting into a future relationship with any guy. It takes more than 6 weeks. Focus on activities and loved ones/friends/family; stay busy and stay positive. Know that you’ll be okay regardless of whether you get back with your ex or not. Happiness comes from inside you, not from a relationship.
Best of luck –
Raven
Move forward… You’ve already put the ball in his court… You ask him to contact you when he wasn’t busy & he hasn’t – sorry :(
Sonia
You do nothing! Like you said you have already put the ball in his court. It’s still too soon. You have been in contact since the break up a couple of times so he hasn’t really gotten a chance to miss you. He might not be ready to see you yet so don’t be hanging on the hope that he is.
Maria
You did the right thing. You indicated to him you were interested in getting together, now it is up to him to decide if he is interested in doing the same. Like you, he understands perfectly well that this is not a simple coffee chat, so it is good that he has time to think about it. Because when he does tell you he wants to meet (if he does), then he will be ready. Otherwise, you’d be forcing things onto him.
So right now you should not do anything else but wait.
Jenna
I agree with the other replies, the ball is in his court now. Just focus on yourself and hopefully things will work out for the best. Also, I’m new to this site, can somebody tell me how to start a thread please? (I’m in a similar situation)
Raven
Go to the main forum page, pick a topic, scroll to the bottom & post….
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