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Amanda L
So I have a question… My ex contacted me after months of no contact at all. He’s moved on to another girl after 2 months of the breakup and he didn’t want to be bothered with me. Now he texts me saying he has mail of mine and did I want him to give it my girlfriend for me to pick up. Now he’s been giving my mail to her all along why does he still have my number and why is he texting me now all of a sudden. Plus today I kinda stirred the pot a bit and told him that I was stalking his FB page. And what did I do wrong as a girlfriend that she doing for him because he’s rep for her way more than he ever did for me. I did initiate the breakup because of how he was treating me. Now I’m the bad guy. His response was you know what Amanda at this time right now that doesn’t even matter. Smh wow help me. I just need closure.
Khadija
Amanda,
He has clearly moved on and does not want to discuss your break up any further.
He contacted you about the mail and nothing else.What else more are you looking for from this guy?
Plus today I kinda stirred the pot a bit and told him that I was stalking his FB page. And what did I do wrong as a girlfriend that she doing for him because he’s rep for her way more than he ever did for me.
^^^^DO not ever do this again please, it makes you look like the ex who hasn’t gotten past this break up. It looks like you need to delete him from all social media too, keeping up with his new relationship will get you nowhere.
P_Asohka
You don’t need closure, it’s clear he’s moved on and is wanting you to know that he’s moved on. Please don’t become a drama queen, the fact he’s being respectful and not just throwing away your mail means he is being mature about things. He doesn’t want to see you, so that’s why he’s having his gf hold onto your mail.
Don’t read things too deep. It just means you two weren’t a good match, it doesn’t have anything to do with you as a person (or what you lack and what she’s doing better). It just means for now, they seem to be a good match that’s all. If it’s only been two months it’s fairly new so be respectful and let them enjoy their new journey together.
You’ll find someone (if you haven’t already) that your a better match with too. If anything you should’ve learned from the relationship and move on and use the resources to find the better match.
kaye
Well if your goal was to come off sounding like the bitter ex…you did a great job! I’m not sure what made you stir the pot but talking to him like that isn’t going to give you closure. Closure comes from you letting go of this anger you’re still harboring toward him and realizing he wasn’t the one for you and moving on. Maybe he learned from you walking away how to treat women better and now he’s doing that to her. Or maybe he’s treating her just as crappy as he did you but she doesn’t have the good sense to walk away yet. Truth is that you’re never going to know. You broke up with him because he wasn’t giving you what you needed. Doesn’t sound like that has changed.
Lane
Hi Amanda,
That was a bad move on your part. His contact was about business…to make sure you still wanted to receive your mail through your friend, not regurgitate the past. Honestly your mail should have been updated and forwarded by now and was probably irked by it and was hoping you would tell him you will take care of it so he doesn’t have to deal with it anymore.
You threw him a hot potato and he threw it back at you because he didn’t want to get into it with you. He’s moved on with another woman and you need to let him go and move on yourself. I know its hard but you have to find your own closure because no one else can give that to you— all you can do is work on creating your own happiness because when you reach it men will be drawn to that far more than someone who’s unhappy.
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