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Tessa
Me and the guy I was dating for about 3 months ended things about 7 months. Although short in the grand scheme of things,the relationship was meaningful, vulnerable, honest, but unfortunately his heart was not there and he went back with his ex. I deleted his nr, unfllowed him from social media and never contacted him again.
He still follows me on social media though… I don’t get why, if you wanted to be done with me why keep me in your life in that way.
Amanda
He is curious. That’s it – its not weird it happens a lot. Forget about him and move on.
Marie
To keep him from having access to you or seeing what you have going on – block him and cut all contact. Often times, they want to see if they can get back or try to hookup, if the person is still open to it.
Laina
Him following you on social media doesn’t mean anything. It means he hasn’t taken action. If he weren’t following you before , and is now following you, that’s different.
peggy
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Henriette
The relationship was meaningful to you. It wasn’t to him. He still loved his ex and went back to her. Him following you on social media means nothing, other than that he didn’t despise you enough to have to block you and cut you out of his life. If he was still actively contacting you, trying to get back together, trying to spend time with you it would have been different. It would have meant something. But not unfriending you doesn’t mean anything other than you didn’t offend him to the extent that he had to get rid of you and never be reminded of you again. It shows you were not that important to him to start with and he didn’t feel as bad about the breakup as you did
Emma
Men many like to keep several doors open so that they can float from ex to ex if they need emotional support or some validation. They can also be simply curious. it is normal to want to know what’s happening in lives of people we know. I am curious about the guy I dated for 6 months, but I don’t want to send him the wrong message so I am not texting to ask and we are not connected on social media, but if he texts me I’d reply enthusiastically and not because I want him back, I don’t want him at all and never even missed him after we broke up by my initiative but I want to know his news and hope he is doing ok. I know not to connect on social media with romantic interests in the first place and I advise you do the same in the future LOL. Unless you are engaged or getting married do not connect, and I am not joking this time. It really is safer and less stressful this way. All those pics, messages etc mean nothing but cause a lot of stress and misunderstandings.
vanessa
I agree with Henriette. And not unfriending you is not keeping you in his life. I’m sure he follows people that he doesn’t even know. And I’m sure he doesn’t want to burn this bridge in case things don’t work out with the ex again.
You say “the relationship was meaningful, vulnerable, honest,…” He may have been trying to recreate that connection he had in his last relationship and perhaps using you as his therapist.
Block him so you can move on and not wonder, to lower the chances of him coming back and tempting you to take him back.
Tessa
Thnx for the replies ladies. He doesn’t necessarily follow people he doesn’t know unless it’s like a famous person. He has a lot of followers he isn’t following back.
Anyways this is so silly, I think me coming here it’s just seeking some sort of validation and I am not completely over him obviously. Sucks…..
And yeah I think I was defenitely was the victim of his therapy session… he got the therapy needed and I got the person who was still in a relationship mode and I thought that was all directed towards me. Sad sad sad
Amanda
Good for you for recognizing the problem. Keep trying with a better guy next time. Dating takes perseverance.
Tessa
Thnx!
I can understand the situation after I reflect on it but it’s hard to notice these signs during the dating phase :/
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