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Jill
Long story short, I slept over at my ex boyfriend’s place (we are trying to work things out with one another). In the morning, he had gone up to go use the restroom, which had woken me up. Like any morning when i wake up, I was going to check what time it was on my phone but only to notice it was gone, looked on the floor to see it might’ve dropped but nope, wasn’t there. My ex was gone for a long time and I found it sort of suspicious, it was well over 10 mins from what it seemed like. He got out and i pretended to be asleep and heard him put my phone down on the desk. When he crawled back into bed, he cuddled with me and brought me close for some reason (he has never done that ever since we broke up) and i opened my eyes to see my phone was in the spot I left it at.
Anyone know why my ex-boyfriend would have gone through my phone? Does he not trust me or something? I don’t have anything to hide on my phone but honestly, I feel violated and disrespected. He doesn’t know that I ‘caught’ him so to say. Any thoughts?
Stefanie
You should have a security code on your phone.
If it were me, I would shut up and watch his behavior for a while. He was probably checking to see if you were conversing with any other guys. If you admit it, he will probably deny it and then you have a problem.
Jill
Oh I do have a security code on it. I haven’t changed it since we broke up a few months ago. He has a memory like an elephant and must have remembered it but I’m going to change it so it doesn’t happen again. He’s tried to go through my phone while we were doing something together and I’d snatch it from him. He’d be like got something to hide? And I would respond with no but I don’t like people going through my phone. One night when he was drunk he texted me to see if any guy asked me out and I said no (which is true even though its none of his business) and was like that’s surprising.
I haven’t said anything to him about him going through my phone that morning. But I’ll continue to watch his behavior.
redcurleysue
One of two things is happening…either he does not trust you or is doing something that is not trustworthy.
Many times when a man is not honest he accuses others of lying….interesting isn’t it?
Stefanie
My sense is he’s trying to find out if he has competition before he gets invested again.
Jill
Should I even confront him about his snooping after some time goes by or no?
Keisha
He wanted through my phone I refused and now he is so mad, I don’t know what to do
Raven
Let him be mad…
Kim
I would confront him about it. Watching and waiting until he checks your phone again isn’t going to help much because it’s not like he’s going to go through your phone in front of you.
If you guys are trying to work things out thr fact that he doesn’t trust you is not a good start. I would be beyond angry if my partner violated my privacy like that. I don’t have anything secret on my phone either, but that’s not the point. You don’t touch someone’s phone without asking.
Deamo
Have a friend send you a flirtatious text, some fake nudes from Google, Set your phone out in front of him and tell him you’re going to go to the store, and wait until he blows his top.
The temptation to mess around with him would be too strong.
Deamo
Oh wait even better. Have a bud pretend that they are the CIA and you’re an undercover agent. Start dropping hints mysteriously about a dark secret you keep.
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