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Pam
I know that connections and relationships vary from person to person but I wanted to get a general idea from ladies and gents who are more experiences than I am in relationships and the expectations around 2 month mark.
Been dating this great guy for 2 months, we meet once during the week and then have been spending weekends together recently. He is a gentelman, calls me and texts me throughout the day. We have a great connection and companionship, and attraction is there.
Lately I feel like as things havent progresses, as in he hasnt brought up exclusivity talk yet even though he has been telling his siblings and family about me. He makes comments that he is not in a rush in terms of jumping into smth serious. I think he is a man that carefully evaluates but I am wondering if he is just not feeling to move any further.
We have been intimate expect that we havent had intercourse yet…I am partly wanting to be safe cuz i just recently started BC pill but also dont want to put myself in the line not knowing what his intentions are.
I would like some insight and advice please of what to do and how to proceed.
Jarcom
Are you sexually exclusive?
I think that should be your first approach and see how he feels. It’s a matter of health.
I always bring that up before having sex with anyone.
Do you think he goes on dates with other girls?
marie
it’s a good time to bring it up.
i honestly wouldn’t wait , because in my experience this is a good time to find out his intentions, so you can make the next steps in where and how you’re going to approach it thereafter.
in my experience, i wished i had some sort of talk about intentions and what he wants, what you want from each other. if he says anyhting like “i’m just lookign for fun, let’s see where this goes, i’m not looking for long-term or serious” blah blah blah you need to move on along.
i know it’s super cut and dry and trust me, everytime i’ve stuck around you’ll never end up getting what you want. be prepared to walk, be decisive if you hear any of those variations. this is just from my experience and if a man says that the first time, chances are he means what he says and it’s your decision about whether to stay or not. but once again, i repeat don’t drag it longer when a man tells you any of the above. there is a slim chance he’ll change his mind. speaking from my own experience and those of my friends. be firm about what you want and be clear about your boundaries…what you will and won’t accept. don’t give sex without exclusivity. i learned this the hard way, and as much as we all love sex, it’s self degrading to give it away to men who aren’t invested and want much less than you do.
now, all of this can be thrown out the window if you want casual. depends on what you want. are you okay with having a tile or no title? if yes, then feel free to do whatveer your heart desires. but if you want commuttment, stand your ground . it’ll save you from disappointment and heartbreak.
Mark
It’s too early to tell. You should wait until the 4-5 month when he’s more comfortable to open up to you. For me the opposite happened and I liked a girl and told her I liked her. She never said she did, would not hold hands in public and did not want me to meet her parents at the start. Than after a few more months she met my parents so I met hers. She told me in the start she was a bit scared we were going to fast and she though meeting parents means we’re serious. I told her no don’t worry if u wanna take things slow I’ll go at your pace. I’ll meet them when your comfortable. A couple days later she came to my house for the first time ever cause I had to grab something and she came in and met my dad and sister and later that day she told me my mom would love to meet me so I went over. We broke up after for financial reasons but that’s a different story. Good luck to you.
Tallspicy
A man who is your boyfriend acts like a boyfriend and claims you as such by 12 weeks latest. And you should tell him you don’t sleep with anyone unless you are exclusive and seeing where it goes. Tell him you can decide that together..do not sleepisode with him you are clear where you are. Exclusive and growing to see what happens. Nothing less.
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